Friendships are voluntary relationships and like romances, they involve a certain degree of “chemistry” between two people. Each person needs to determine whom they want to befriend and be befriended by—which friendships they want to pursue and those they want to pass up on.
When friends move away from each other, it’s hard to maintain the same relationship they had when they were living close together. Even without that barrier, relationships change over time as two people grow in different directions.
I have a friend (for the past 20 years) who is extremely negative and depressed, impossible to deal with, irrational and who is completely draining me. Any and all suggestions I give to better her situation are repeatedly dismissed.
Recently, my husband and I received some bad news. This was something my "friends" knew about, and had asked me to keep them posted on. Yet, when I emailed these four friends separately about the bad news, two responded and two have not.
My BFF and I have been friends since high school (I am now 26). For most of these years we have been as tight and as happy as you could imagine. However, I feel she has been relying on me too heavily for emotional support and empathy while ignoring any issues I may be going through.