Managing relationships with 'friend-in-laws'

I have a friend who I have been close to for 11 years. About eight years ago, I met her husband's brother and fell in love. We are now married. At first this seemed great, my best friend was becoming my sister-in-law!

Friends: From almost-sisters to almost-strangers

My best friend of 18 years always called me "the sister she never had". We live in the same city and used to talk on the phone at least 5 to 10 times a day and got together frequently.

Surprise! She's Back...

I was introduced to my husband by my good friend. She was dating his best friend at the time. She and her boyfriend broke up, but we continued to be friends until I stopped hearing from her. She has always been bad about keeping in touch but specifically told me that she appreciated that I continued to make the effort because she valued my friendship.

Legacy friends: Deciding whether they're keepers

My best friend from college (who later was my maid of honor) and I had a fall out three years ago. After 13 years of friendship, she completely shut down and stopped speaking to me. My moving out of state, her moving to another state, my having a baby, and her career taking off all converged into a perfect storm triggering the split.

Can't we all play nicely? Not always

I've put myself in a very complicated situation. My best friend dated a man for several years that I did not approve of. It took me a long time to accept and tolerate him. Eventually they broke up but not before he wedged himself into our group of friends.

Apologies pave the way for second chances

My best friend Lila started hanging out with this other girl Jenny. At first the three of us were friends. Then Jenny offered to take Lila on a cruise. The next month, the two of them were always together, talking about me and spreading rumors behind my back.

Secrets: Should you tell your friend her husband's been unfaithful?

I've been burdened with the knowledge that the husband of one of my closest friends was unfaithful to her. They have two very young children (one 3 years old and the other 6 months). I am certain that she is not aware of the incident. And I have known about it for several months, debating on what I should do about it.

Phone Friends: An extinct species?

Be honest. Do you cringe when the phone rings?

Friendship Calculus: The Problem of Three

Three friends never seem to work. One person always gets excluded in one way or another.

Love my friend---not her problem child

My husband and I are good friends with a couple and enjoy their company. However, they have a 5-year-old child who is completely unmanageable. He is mean to my daughter, violent toward other kids, loud, and demanding.

Grief complicated by the loss of a best friend

Dear Irene, My best friend and I had a major falling out 4½ years ago shortly after the death of my two-year-old son. At the time I was so deep in grief and my judgment so impaired that I did not apologize for behavior on my part that led to our breakup.

Friendships take two....even toxic ones

Hi Dr. Levine,...I am in a long-term friendship that is so far gone, I don' t even know where to begin.My basic problem is that this friend has no boundaries and no one else in her life so she relies on me for everything.

Middle school is tough on friendships

Dear Irene,My best friend and I have been best friends since the first grade. Now we're in middle school. This new charter school opened up and my friend wants to go there even though I'm not and she's turning into a real jerk.

March 8, 2011 International Women's Day

Today is the 100th anniversary of International Women's Day (IWD) with events taking place all over the world.

Feeling trapped? Try being honest

My friend wants to get together too often for my comfort. Sometimes I just want to do my own thing and spend time with my children alone! More and more, I'm making up excuses and thinking up lies.

Guest Post - There’s a reason it’s lonely at the top

One of the most poignant lines in the Oscar-winning movie, The King's Speech, came from Colin Firth, playing King George VI, when he muttered "I wouldn't know" in response to his speech therapists nonchalant statement "That's what friends are for.

Hard time making friends? Making couple friends is even harder

My husband and I moved across the country 10 years ago so he could pursue a job after finishing graduate school. We've a developed a broad circle of acquaintances. However, we have very few close friends and we are both saddened and disappointed by this reality.

When friendship feels like you're walking on eggshells

I haven't spoken to an old best friend for quite some time. It's her birthday and I'm not sure what to do.

Handling Friendships When You're Having Trouble Conceiving

Not being able to conceive as quickly as you would like to is emotionally exhausting

7 Tips for saying NO

Saying NO can unravel a friendship but sometimes there's no way around it

The Final Straw: Saying NO to a friend isn't easy

It's always hard to say NO to people, especially friends. But learning to say NO may be essential if friendships are to remain authentic and mutually satisfying

Dealing with a friend who's a Drama Queen

This is the type of friendship you might have had in third grade but I'm in my 30s! I need to figure out a way to maintain the friendship but keep it at a distance.

Expecting, And Feeling Let Down by Friends

I am six months pregnant, and moved to my current city 2½ years ago. I hadn't had a chance to tell all my friends yet (many of whom are spread throughout the country), so I sent a "Happy Valentine's Day" message to them, informing them of our impending family member, and asking them to "send good thoughts our way towards the end of June."

The etiquette of remaining friends with an ex-friend's mom

Is it proper to continue my friendship with my ex-friend's mother? My husband, son, and I truly enjoy Nonna's company, and she truly enjoys ours as well, especially spending time with my son. I have no hope of ever getting back together with my ex-friend.

When a friendly lunch leaves a sour taste

A few years ago, I started meeting a couple of old friends for lunch every month or two. Well, the longer we do it, the less I enjoy it.

Fluid friendships: Is it just me?

I just want to know how many women out there have "staying power" with their friends, or do friendships come and go as has been my experience. Is it me?

My BFF exhausts me!

I'm tired of trying to convince her that I do care for her; she's like family to me. I don't have the energy to constantly tell her she's not fat and not ugly. I feel guilty because we've been so close for so many years and I want to help her but every time I try the tough love bit, she won't speak to me or she tells me I just don't care about her anymore.

Nothing but trouble: When a mom can’t stand her teen daughter’s best friend

What should you tell a teen who's friend is nothing but trouble when she feels that the friend is her best friend in the whole world----but you already can see how bad her friend could be? Looking for advice for a mom who loves her daughter, but not always her daughter's friends.

7 ways to make a friend feel special on Valentine's Day

Whether you celebrate Valentine's Day or the Día del amor y la Amistad (Day of Love and Friendship)---as do many Latin Americans---February 14th offers a perfect opportunity to show affection for close friends, who add so much to our lives.

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