The Mean Girls in Preschool

Hi, My daughter will be five years old. She is happy, well-mannered, loving, and pretty. She has attended a Montessori school since she was 16 months old and made two friends. The three girls were always together, or talking about each other.

Breaking Up with a Friend Always Hurts, Especially at the Office

Dear Irene, Right now, only we know about it, but it's bound to spread. I am not planning to say anything, but she likely will. Plus, it will eventually become apparent to others that we aren't friends.

My Toddler Doesn't Get Along with Friends: Should I Worry?

I'm the mother of an almost 3-year-old boy. He's an absolute delight when with mum and dad and other adults, but he's very aggressive with other children. When he meets another child, in the street, or in a play situation, he pulls a horrid face and makes growling sounds.

Dumped by My BFF but She Still Wants to Call the Shots

Dear Irene, How do you handle a situation where a very dear friend, who also happens to be your friend from work, wants an extended time out and at the same time insists that I should keep on being friends with her family? She and I have spent less quality time together during the past year, which has led to a lot of misunderstandings and arguments.

My BFF Thinks I Tried to Seduce Her Husband

I'd known my friend and her husband for about twelve years. I had always got along with her husband and we went on a group holiday about three years ago and that's when her husband and I became friendly. We had a lot in common and could laugh and joke about things. I thought we were genuine friends.

Work, Friendship and Kids: What a Toxic Mess...

Hi Irene, I work for a business that represents some former friends. They have a nine-year-old daughter who was a BFF with our nine-year-old daughter. Over the summer, the friends offered to care for our daughter one day a week while I was at work. It all started out almost too well, with tons of energy and generosity.

Dissed by a "Best Friend," Get Even or Work It Out?

Being that a new husband is a good friend -- and should be a best friend -- how do you handle being abandoned at a formal dinner party? Your partner is right next to you, but ignores you for a good 30 minutes talking to another woman whose husband most likely is sitting somewhere at the table too. Should a best friend just ignore you?

Why Am I Such an Insecure Friend?

I am generally insecure when it comes to friends. I am frightened that if I don't co-operate or meet their requirements they will dump me. This was true during my college days- and now I'm married with two kids and still haven't gotten over it.

Can Parents Substitute for Friends?

Over the years my daughter has struggled with social issues and having friends. Like many of the stories I read, our daughter is beautiful, athletic, top grades, straight (no drinking or smoking), good at conversations etc. etc. Yet, her friendships seem to fizzle out.

A Friendship Reduced to a Relationship on Facebook

My friend has tried to detach herself from our friendship by not having enough time to spend together as we did in the past. She is always busy and doesn't even have time to talk over the phone. We only communicate through Facebook, and that makes me pretty sad.

Falling Together: A New Novel about College Friendships

In this book, de los Santos tells the story of three best friends—Pen, Cat, and Will—who meet at college. Although the trio forms an incredibly strong bond during their years together on campus, their lives follow very different paths and their friendship falls by the wayside.

Having a Hard Time Getting Over the Death of a Spouse

My wife died last May, almost six months ago. We were so devoted to each other that we didn't need any friends. I don't go to pubs or clubs and am very much a loner. Now, I seem to be pushing people away in case they want something I'm unable to give them. I don't know where to turn for help.

Friendship Norms?

Is it normal to care more about your girl friends than finding a guy? I'm 25, never had a boyfriend, and simply don't care about having one (And no, I'm not a lesbian; I've always been straight).

Social Drinking: How Do You Handle a New Friend Who Drinks Too Much?

About 3 months ago, I made a new girlfriend. She has a personality that is a lot of fun to be with and we've enjoyed shopping and hanging out. The longer we're friends though, the more alcohol is playing a large part in our time spent together.

Aftermath of a Teen Friendship Breakup: Should Bethany Be Forced to Attend the Wedding?

My daughter, Bethany, her older sister, and I were invited to her friend Dawn's sister's wedding. The bride and my older daughter became friendly over the years; Bethany and Dawn, who are now both 14 years old and in high school, were best friends since second grade. They're no longer friends.

Five Ways Friends Help Build Our Self-Confidence

A healthy dose of skepticism and uncertainty about ourselves is a good thing because it helps us make better decisions. No one knows everything or has perfect instincts, and having good friends on whom we can rely for advice helps improve our sense of self-confidence and make better decisions.

Why Am I Having So Much Trouble Making New Friends?

Friendships have become a sore point for me at this juncture in my life. I am in my 30s and have a lovely husband and toddler son. I used to work full time and hence, never really developed any friendships in my neighborhood.

My Sister is Being Controlled by a Possessive Friend

I have three sisters and we are all close. We've never had problems with each other's friends. My younger sister, who is 25, has a possessive, controlling friend who is also her business partner.

My Best Friend: She Loves Me, She Loves Me Not

I am having a really hard time with my best friend. This whole relationship started out quite differently. She was attracted to me and fell in love with me at the very beginning. I reciprocated these feelings for a while but ultimately realized we weren't a match, and decided we needed to focus on the friendship because she had, in fact, become my best friend.

Not All Friendships Last Forever: I Lost My Contacts in a NYC Taxi Cab

Last August, lost my cell phone. I left it in a cab in NYC and to make matters worse had not properly backed up my contacts. In an effort to regain some of those contacts, I sent out messages on Facebook. Some people responded and some did not, which made me feel very sad.

Friends Who Squelch Your Dreams

I am a 34-year-old man who had a dream. It sounds silly but it was to make a film. When I told my friends about this (which was in March) they were extremely supportive of the idea, which I found surprising but then...

"I Don't Want to Be Your Friend–But It Has Nothing to Do with You"

Anyone would feel as pained as you do when another person - without any communication or opportunity for input - summarily ends a close friendship with a long shared history.

Did She Cut Off Our Friendship Because I'm Gay?

I am about 30 years old and a friend of 12 years, who was around for all of my major life changes, suddenly cut me off. I thought maybe she figured my wild phase was not a phase, but we all had our phases and they've passed. Then I thought maybe she was convinced I was a creep because I had explored my sexuality in some interesting ways when I came out of the closet.

Should a Friend Compete with You for the Same Job?

I told a friend of 32 years (a woman who I am currently starting to date) about a job that I interviewed for and she tells me that she wants to go for the job because it sounded like the job for her.

Poached: Am I Right to Feel Excluded and Violated by My Friend?

Amanda and Heather took to each other very fast. So fast that it became the three of us whenever something social was happening. I started quickly to feel like the third wheel.

Rich Girl, Poor Girl: Can Their Friendship Survive?

Can women of different social status or socio-economic background sustain a healthy, non-competitive, equal friendship?

My Home Away from Home: Making Friends in Maine

There are challenges in making and keeping friends in two geographical locations simultaneously but they can be overcome if you set your mind to it.

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