I have mixed with a group of 7 or 8 women in my hometown since my oldest child was at kindergarten and she is now nine. I have been closer to some more than others and fluctuations in the intimacy of these friendships have occurred, which is probably normal.
Recently, however, I have felt excluded by the group.
It’s been one-and-a-half years since my good friend and I broke up. As background, I’m 39 and she’s 45. I’m single and she’s divorced. Neither of us have kids. We had been good friends for seven years…met at work.
I find it difficult to make friends. I've got some friends and had some in the past but when I analyze how we became friends it’s almost always either via someone else (usually a friend of my husband or brother) or because they made friends with me.
I told my friend I was buying an expensive item I had always wanted. Since I had saved for this item, it wasn't going to be a problem for me. She then said she needed one, too, and that she would pay me back..
About six months ago, my BFF of 10 years, Penny, confided that she was having an affair with our mutual close friend, Amy's, husband. Our families are all friends and her burdening me with this information was extremely difficult for me.
I have been friends with someone for over twenty years. She's remarried to a guy, whom I don't think likes my husband or me. We use to be invited to her Christmas party every year. NO more. Last time I was there, she made sure I was not there when he came home, and our time was limited because she was going to a party with his friends.
With a little bit of moxie, my friend and colleague, Laura E. Kelly, used technology to overcome the feelings of estrangement from neighbors that are so typical today. Laura agreed to write her story here to inspire others who want to get to know their neighbors.
I'm 37 years old but when I was 18, my best friend and I met this friendly guy whom we both liked, but he liked me more. He and I kept our relationship quiet for a while but at a party, my best friend saw us together.