Yesterday, my patient Jill was distressed because her son had not been invited to a party his friends had attended. He heard about it the afternoon of and called her several times to ask if she had received an email from the organizing mother. He was obviously anxious and hurt. She had not received any communication. Jill was disconcerted because the mom in question had attended gatherings at her home on several occasions.
General concerns: How does one protect their child socially? Should one strategize socially just to make sure they are included? Is it even possible to make sure? Does inclusion in a particular group really matter?
How to deal with exclusion:
Both parents and children can feel undone by exclusions. Take a breath and grab some distance. Make it less important. After you have explored, understood and done what you can about the matter, let it go. Realize that both you and yours have other things to do and think about.
If you emphasize it too much, people who are not that relevant take up prominent positions in your psyche where they do not belong.