Hands-Off Parenting For Resilient, Resourceful Children

It can be hard to resist helicopter parenting, but research suggests that less support is the best support. Here is an exploration of the issue and a few suggestions.

The Silent Epidemic: Young Men Dropping Out of College

Young men drop out of college at high rates. This blog explores the reasons why and offers suggestions to help them find their way.

The Fear of Gaining Weight

Eating and weight gain can be associated with painful, inhibiting states of shame. Here is one person's story.

7 Tips for Coping With A Paranoid Partner

Living with a paranoid person can take a toll. False accusations and delusional fears are not easy to manage, especially in a person who is otherwise functioning fairly well.

Drawing a Line in the Sugar with Chef Emily Luchetti

Dessert's are about emotional connection as well as sugar. Celebrity Emily Luchetti helps us approach them in a healthy way.

"It Takes More Than Ideology to Compel Violent Action"

Considering the biological traits and characteristics of people who terrorize and kill. It takes more than ideology to do it.

When Going “Home” Makes You Crazy or Depressed

Returning to the family home is a taxing experience for many people. Here are some thoughts about how to deal with it.

Student Protests and Omnipotent Control

College student protests, anger, power and tearing down the holding environment.

Change Values, Decrease Stress

If we reduce stress, we reduce psychological and physical illness. It is both intuitive and now scientifically shown. A change in cultural values can start with leaders creating healthy work cultures or with grassroots initiatives. Either way, awareness begets change.

Oregon Murders and Risk Factors for Mass Shootings

There are clear psychological, biological and situational risk factors for mass shootings. Greater public awareness of what they are can help us figure out preventions.

8 Ways to Really Connect With Each Other

Research indicates that people are craving substantive experience. An "anti-depth" culture may feel easier, lighter or happier, at first but with a surfeit of superficial engagements, people suffer. Depression, stress and anxiety are rising and if we can alter our relationship to devices and to one another, we might feel much better.

Accusing an Innocent Child of a Major Crime

Punishing a person with a strong conscience or a child with unusual gifts of creativity, self expression or empathy because of mindless misunderstanding can cause serious damage. Understanding who someone is as well as what they do or have done is important for effective intervention. Rigid rule following can backfire..

Mental Illness Does Not Equal Dangerous, Mostly

There are many different kinds of mental illness and most people with these conditions are not dangerous. However a certain mix of psychological ailments combined with other known risk factors can be a set up for violent crime. If we can clear up the misunderstandings we will be in a better position to predict and protect.

When You’ve Been Humiliated or Hurt by Someone You Trusted

Research suggest that the scars of childhood bullying have a significant impact later in life. This is one person's story of resilience and how "woe is me" turned to "woe is you."

Play Makes Children Smart, Happy and Prepared for the Future

This blog is about the myriad benefits of play for children. Too much cerebral focus and too little spontaneous thought can be damaging for creativity, intellect and overall wellbeing.

12 Tips for Greater Psychological Health

Six personal qualities are considered "mature defenses" and can contribute to a happier and healthier life. This blog outlines these traits and some suggestions for how to develop them.

How Technical Devices Influence Children's Brains

Guest blog by Dan Riseman, president of Riseman Educational Counseling, covers children's brain development. Here are some dos and don'ts regarding devices.

Should I Listen to the Advice of Celebrity Docs?

The debate about whether Dr. Mehmet Oz should resign from his position at Columbia for "quackery" continues. Questions about doing no harm, doing good, forgiveness, public shaming and responsible medicine are addressed in this blog.

When a Sociopath Is Hell Bent on Destroying You

Sociopaths (anti-social personality, psychopath) can decimate a life. The mental, emotional or physical trauma can be stunning. The aftermath of sociopathic is unique because the assault instills a dim world view, a shaky sense of safety and a feeling that one has been visited by evil. Here are 16 points of focus to begin recovery.

After the Germanwings Crash, 7 Lessons About Mental Illness

Not all depressions are alike. Severe depression with psychotic features may elude a clinician as they are well masked or not present at the time of the exam. Symptoms ebb and flow, troubled people can be high functioning and we have much to uncover about the conditions of the Germanwings co-pilot.

Humiliation, Recovery and Monica Lewinsky

Public shaming, online harassment and cyber-bullying are ubiquitous but they were not always. This blog examines the heart wrenching plight of one woman and how she overcame humiliation to become a tour-de-force and an agent for public good.

Malignant Narcissism and the Murder of a Parent

This blog explores Malignant Narcissism and the damaging impact that it can have on family members and others.

When Not Talking About Past Trauma is Wise

Though self expression is often healing, sometimes it is better not to tell your tale of woe. For some people repeating the story re-ignites the trauma. Learning to re-direct the thoughts can be more therapeutic. Here are some suggestions.

The Psychotic Family

This blog explores the meaning and impact of the psychotic family and offers suggestions for maintaining mental health in a pathological situation.

"Why Don't I Love My Body?"

Many people struggle with body image and the ability to feel comfortable in their own skin. In this blog, my client Brianna discusses her personal struggle as well as the idea of inner and outer beauty. She found her way.

Tensions at the Thanksgiving Table

For some, returning to family of origin at Thanksgiving is a pleasure. For others it is a mixed bag, and for several it is a source of stress. Here are eight tips for managing tensions that might arise and for holding on to your own zen mind.

College Admissions, Authenticity, Creative Minds and Success

Creativity is becoming the new form of excellence according to education experts. Ruthless college pursuit and academic overload has been causing monumental stress in children, parents and teachers, too. It has created a process that actually harms rather that enhances our children's minds and mental health. The game appears to be changing.

Happy Families Are Not All Alike

A strong, positive family experience can bolster psyches and make individuals able. However it can be a challenge to achieve with current stressors or past traumas. Some families of origin did not model well or still create strife. There are ways to move on. Here are 19 suggestions for a harmonious home and moments of happiness. Do it your way.

Does 2+2 Still Equal 4?

The controversy about The Common Core, a new teaching and testing method, is raising serious questions. Some express concern that it was not properly vetted before implementation. Classic and current research on how intellect develops in children and calls the approach into question. About 65% of NY children did not pass the state math test.

"Lightheartedness" Helps You Cope

"Lightheartedness," involves a Buddhist approach to dealing with emotional stress. By integrating serious concerns with a sense of buoyancy, one can move through taxing situations with greater equanimity. Research shows that such meditative practices decrease stress significantly.