Setting plays a huge part in wellness. No matter how much you analyze intra-psychic phenomena, dig into the past, excavate family of origin influences and re-visit old traumas, wellness has much to with where we hang out and with whom in the present moment
While it is often true that “Nothing is good or bad but thinking makes it so,” (Shakespeare) sometimes perspective cannot triumph over a trying situation or setting. “Reality matters,” as some psychoanalysts I have known remind themselves.
Though it may seem superficial, the surround has a profound influence. Freud spoke about how we worship beauty in people, places and things, It helps to be aware of that which holds your attention, moves your mind and shifts your mood. Knowing where you like to be and in what company is key for the lifted moment. While these truths may be self-evident to some, others feel befuddled and set themselves up for disappointment with poor choices due to lack of self awareness. Contentment has much to do with well-chosen settings.
The idea that setting has a huge influence makes me optimistic and hopeful. Why? Because it is something you can control, do something about. Remember the serenity prayer,
“God give me the courage to accept the things I cannot change, to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference?”
You may not be able to change where you came from or what was done to you or even the poor choices you once made but you can now take yourself to certain places that will promote your creativity and health.
Know yourself better and fine-tune your choices by asking these questions:
Quite honestly you do not have to go far or have much money or have a car. If you seek, you shall find a circle of safety, a peaceful zone, a place to rest or the setting that lifts you up.