Should You Ever Give Advice to a Friend?

Whether you give advice as a matter of course or you think carefully about everything you say, giving and taking advice from a friend is rarely simple.

What Happens When a Malignant Narcissist Starts to Unravel?

When a narcissist moves along a path of potential self-destruction, they have no problem destroying anyone and everyone on that path with them.

This Is How to Rescue a Struggling Relationship

Do you fear that your marriage is in trouble? Try to improve it using this research-based solution.

Why Do We Hate Difference?

Why do leaders who nurture prejudice and fan the flames of hatred become so incredibly and disturbingly popular? And what can you do about it?

Is It Wrong to Want to Be Admired?

How do you know whether your desire to be seen and admired is narcissistic?

8 Ways to Respond When a Friend Hurts You

What's the best way to respond when a friend hurts you?

Can Friends Raise Your Pain Tolerance?

Social networks have many purposes, some good and some bad, but who would have thought that they might work as a painkiller?

The Best Way to Say Goodbye to College Friends

“I can’t wait to get to college!” “I’m so glad to be leaving behind all of the gossip and backbiting of high school friendships!” “I don't want to leave my best friends"

4 Steps for Dealing With Self-Centered People

Amanda is loads of fun to be around. But, “the price of being Amanda’s friend,” says one member of her group, “is that you have to give all of your attention to Amanda."

How Can We Understand Our Fear of the Other?

What can science fiction and fairy tales tell us about our emotional selves?

What’s the Best Way to Deal with Rude and Selfish People?

What is the cause of selfishness, rudeness and entitlement? What draws us to someone with these qualities? And what can you do when someone is rude to you or someone you love?

Tweens, Teens, Texting and Sexting

Pat's thirteen year old was going to send a sexy picture of herself to her new boyfriend. Should Pat take away the phone, ground her, monitor all electronic activity?

Do Men Have a Problem With Dating Smart Women?

Years ago, Sara’s mother had told her, “if you want to find a husband, don’t be too smart.” Was she right?

Why Is It Hard to Say “No” and How Can You Get Better At It?

Do you have troubles saying "no"? You're not alone. Here are some reasons why this little word is so hard to say, and seven simple ways you can learn to say it better.

Feel Guilty? 6 Steps to Manage, Repair and Move On

As the New Year approached, Dan*, a college professor in his early thirties, told me that he was feeling so guilty about all of the things he had failed to do this year.

How Much Money Do You Need to be Happy?

If money doesn't always lead to happiness, why do we think that we will be happier with more of it?

6 Tips to Make the Most of Your Office Holiday Party

When was the last time you heard someone say, “I can’t wait for my office holiday party! It’s going to be so much fun!”? 6 tips to help you shine during this year's festivities!

Terrorists Want Us to Feel Insecure - 5 Ways to Triumph

5 ways to keep the terrorists from winning.

Why Do You Keep Making the Same Relationship Mistakes?

Do you keep having the same argument with your boyfriend, girlfriend, spouse or partner? Do you keep falling into a relationship rut? How can you change these old patterns?

A Brilliant Way to Avoid College Application Insanity

For years I have worked with parents and adolescents, high school advisors and college counselors, all of them struggling with the madness of the college application process and the years building up to it. Finally, I have come across someone with some brilliant, common sensical and easily applied ideas about how to deal with the "mania" of college applications.

The Pain of Rejection (and How We Justify Dishing It Out)

Researchers have provided evidence for what you and I already know – being ostracized, or ignored or excluded by a group to which we would like to belong or have already been part of is not good for our psyches or our souls. But what about the ostracizers? Do they get off scot free? Or does something happen to them as well.

5 Ways to Protect Your Personal Space

Do you work in an open cubicle? Does someone in a nearby cube talk too loudly on their phone, or talk to you nonstop? How can you protect your personal space?

It's Easier Than You Think To Misread Body Language

It never fails to surprise and disappoint me when therapists make dumb comments.

5 Reasons to Ditch Perfection and Embrace 'Good Enough'

A mom I know was trying to arrange a birthday party for her child. “I want it to be the best party ever!” she said. “I want her to have memories of this party for the rest of her life.” What's wrong here?

Is It True That Your Physical Pain Is In Your Mind?

“I think there’s something wrong,” Marjorie said. “I feel like I have a urinary tract infection all the time. But the doctor can’t find anything the matter. He says I have an anxiety disorder." A week later, tests showed that she had a UTI. Why hadn't the doctor picked it up before?

What's the Best Way to Deal With a Negative Body Image?

Lianne* came to see me for help with her eating. "I can't stand myself," she said. "I've tried every diet I can think of. I lose weight...and then I gain it all back...and more." Lianne was smart and very funny. She had a successful job and many women friends. But she didn't like her body. And she didn't like herself.

Does Your Relationship Need a Reality Check?

Most of us want to be admired and even, on occasion, slightly idealized by our loved ones. But at a certain point, the good feelings can turn bad. Too much admiration can damage a relationship. What’s the tipping point, and what can you do to avoid it?

Mommy Cliques: 7 Ways to Beat Being Outside the 'In' Group

When my son was a toddler I signed him up for a “gymnastics” group, hoping not only to use up some of his energy, but to find some friends for myself. Instead, I found that there was an "in" group of moms and kids -- and we were definitely on the outside. I felt like a third grader again. If you've ever been in this situation, you'll like these psychologically savvy ideas.

Unhappy? Try this Simple Technique to Feel Better

An attractive, well-dressed, and recently divorced client told me that she was unhappy and having troubles meeting men. Why? and what could she do about it?

5 Ways to Deal With A Guilt-Tripping Mother

“It doesn’t matter what I do for my mother, it’s never enough.” “I bought my Mom a beautiful gift for her birthday, but she took it back. She always takes my presents back. What’s with that?” “I hate Mother’s Day. I can’t ever get it right.” Sound familiar?

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