For years I have worked with parents and adolescents, high school advisors and college counselors, all of them struggling with the madness of the college application process and the years building up to it. Finally, I have come across someone with some brilliant, common sensical and easily applied ideas about how to deal with the "mania" of college applications.
Researchers have provided evidence for what you and I already know – being ostracized, or ignored or excluded by a group to which we would like to belong or have already been part of is not good for our psyches or our souls. But what about the ostracizers? Do they get off scot free? Or does something happen to them as well.
A mom I know was trying to arrange a birthday party for her child. “I want it to be the best party ever!” she said. “I want her to have memories of this party for the rest of her life.” What's wrong here?