But since we know from studies that women are hard-wired to need social connection, and the Stanford Center for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education finds that feeling connected to others can lower our anxiety and depression levels, talking about fertility problems would seem to be natural. Especially because other studies show, women with infertility problems can feel as anxious or depressed as women with cancer, hypertension, or recovering from a heart attack.
So, let’s look at some reasons why many women are suffering in silence.
If I tell - I’m inviting constant questions, which are hard to take if IVF is not successful.
If I tell - I’ll get advice I don’t want or need.
If I tell - I’ll get everyone’s misinformation and referrals.
If I tell - everyone will tell everyone who will tell everyone and so forth.
If I tell - my family will worry.
If I tell - my in-laws will judge me.
I can always tell, but I can un-tell.
Understanding the significance of the Celmatix findings is just step one, however, step two is doing something about it. Speaking out about fertility issues will give women more information, more experiences to draw on, more referrals, and more emotional support from others who have been through the same journey!
Celmatix, together with a few allies Progyny, Fairygodboss, Flutter, Fruitful, LMHQ, Maven and Tia, are doing something about it. They’ve decided to launch a space where women can share their stories and pledge to "Say the F Word" (fertility, of course) in 2018. On the dedicated site, www.wesaythefword.com, women will “Pledge to #SaytheFword,” and share their reproductive health goals. For every pledge, Celmatix will donate $1 to nonprofits supporting women’s health including the Women’s March, Resolve, and Planned Parenthood, up to $25,000.
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