What Would You Never Dream of Doing?

Ones (Perfectionists) Would Never Dream of: • being half an hour late to work • not making reservations for every night of their vacation • leaving their clothes in a heap and their dishes unwashed all week • using their sleeve for a napkin • taking a relaxing bath just before guests come

When Boys Feel Like Girls and Girls Feel Like Boys

“I told my mom, and she reacted extremely negatively, telling me that it was a phase, that I would never truly be a girl, that God doesn’t make mistakes, that I am wrong. If you are reading this, parents, please don’t tell this to your kids.”

For Type 5, 6, & 7 Teens: How to Be a Leader III

Use the typical strengths of your Enneagram type in your role as leader.

For Type 2, 3, & 4 Teens: How to Be a Leader II

Learn about all 9 Enneagram personality types because you have all 9 within you. One of them is your main type.

For Type 8, 9, & 1 Teens: How to Be a Leader

Leadership means forming a team to get something accomplished. The Enneagram teaches you to perceive your strengths, to use them with confidence, and to identify skills you could improve.

Don’t Spank Me!

“A study in 20 American cities, published in the American Academy of Pediatrics in 2013, found that young children in homes with little or no spanking showed swifter cognitive development than their peers. Other studies find that children in physically punitive schools perform worse.”

A Successful Opera Career In Spite of Her Voice

Magda’s fans bootlegged her recordings for decades and adored her with such passion, police had to stop them from dashing onto the stage. Opera lovers are usually very discriminating about vocal quality, but not Magda’s fans. So what kept them enthralled—her enthusiasm? Her sparkle?

When the Enneagram Saved a Life

Ben was tired of feeling like two people—the one he kept inside and the inauthentic one he showed to others. He was so miserable he had even come close to suicide. The Enneagram helped him to feel he belonged.

What Can We Learn from Delusions?

"The Golds point out Internet-enabled cameras and cell phones, not to mention National Security Agency snooping, have turned the entire world into a single, if virtual, city and ‘a bizarre delusion about being watched into a sober worry.'"

Why Does Music We Heard As Teens Stick?

Stern says we grow more attached to the music we hear in our adolescent period than at any other time in our life because of our neurons. Our prefrontal cortex retains the personal memory music evokes. When we love hearing a song, our brains’ pleasure circuits get activated…

What Makes Great Musicians—Hours of Practice or Talent?

When Malcolm Gladwell wrote that anyone can become a musician if they practice enough, I was skeptical based on my experience as a pianist and piano teacher. My most successful students seemed to feel the music almost before they learned the notes.

Gay Teens Often Behave Dangerously When Rejected by Family

In conducting fieldwork among homeless gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender teenagers in the Bay Area as a faculty member of San Francisco State University, Dr. Ryan documented a strong correlation between rejection by families and such dangerous youthful behavior as drug abuse, unprotected sex and suicide attempts.

McConaughey and Harrelson in “True Detective”, Part 2

Rust is a 5-Observer in the Enneagram. He’s not diplomatic; he’s compelled to keep telling Marty his nihilistic views of life even though Marty can’t stand it. Rust is good at figuring things out, for example that the green house in a photo is the same color as the ears of the monster children have described. Rust tries to venture into society at times.

McConaughey’s and Harrelson’s Roles in "True Detective"

Marty and Rust work hard and bravely to catch murderers and predators. Both detectives are lonely, not good at relationships, and struggle with different kinds of inner demons... Rust is a philosophical loner with an active mind who propounds the meaningless of life.

The Autism Spectrum and Dr. Wing

“‘Between the two poles was a large population of people struggling with undiagnosed forms of the disorder at the core of autism." Dr. Wing describes that disorder as "a lack of ability to understand and use the rules governing social behavior."

Restorative Justice or Punitive Justice?

“Speaking in a loud, firm voice, she looked out at her audience and told the prisoners that calling them monsters was a disservice to everyone: ‘Holding you in your humanity—it’s how we hold each other accountable.’”

President Obama, Enneagram Type 9, Part 2

When writing about inner city education, Obama unknowingly stood up for the inclusive principles of the Enneagram: “Just think about what a real education for these children would involve. It would start by giving a child an understanding of himself, his world, his culture, his community.”

President Obama: Enneagram Type 9, Part 1

If there’s one thing that is consistent with Obama throughout his life, it’s his desire to see all sides of issues. This and his desire to be fair, especially, indicate that he is primarily a 9-Peace Seeker.

The Need to Be Alone

“It’s in solitude that much of the sharpest thinking is done and many of the best ideas are hatched. We know this intuitively and from experience, yet solitude is often cast as an archaic luxury and indulgent oddity, inferior to a spirited discussion and certainly to a leadership conference.”

Society’s Drive to Punish vs. Personal Sanity

In an article called “Punitive Damage,” in the NY Times Book Review section (5-18-14), David Cole reports on Inferno – An Anatomy of American Punishment by Robert A. Ferguson: “Ferguson surmises that people have a drive to punish, that we are generally unable to understand the pain and suffering of others, and that America’s traditions support an especially virulent ‘logic

Is Your Workplace Noisy?

In “Where Sounds Have No Barrier” (NY Times 3-2-14), Phyllis Korkki discusses three kinds of office set-ups: open, enclosed, and those with glass enclosures. I was surprised to hear that open offices are hard on us because they are so quiet. She says office equipment has become so quiet, other sounds now stand out more and distract us.

Are You an Enneagram Type 4, the Romantic?

Not only do 4-Romantics often have gifts of expression, such as being musical, artistic, and/or good with words, they often feel the need to express themselves. This partially explains 4-Romantic artistic geniuses such as Beethoven, Billy Holiday, Edvard Munch, and Charles Baudelaire.

Faces and Communicating Emotions

When research subjects were asked to judge the feeling being communicated, the emotion associated with the body nearly always trumped the one associated with the face.

Why Are Women Aggressive Toward Other Women?

Pressure on women is frequently blamed on the ultrathin female role models featured in magazines and on television, but researchers say it’s mainly the result of competition with their peers, not media images.

Are Social Media Making Us Stupid?

“It turns out multitaskers are terrible at every aspect of multitasking. They’re terrible at ignoring irrelevant information; they’re terrible at keeping information in their head nicely and neatly organized; and they’re terrible at switching from one task to another…”

Deep Brain Stimulation (DBS) is Helpful for Many Disorders

Instead of focusing on dysfunctional neurotransmitters, which Prozac and other drugs target, scientists are finding dysfunctions in a network of interconnected brain regions that process rewarding or aversive responses to emotional stimuli.

Do You Suffer From Severe Anxiety?

Stossel, likely a 6-Questioner in the Enneagram system, tried dozens of drugs and alcohol. Then his therapist thought writing a book might help him get to the bottom of it.

Valentines for Personality Types

Here are ideas for what each of the nine Enneagram personality types might enjoy most for Valentine's Day. The history of the day is included.

Does Flawed English Annoy You?

Sloppy use of language, including redundancy, leads to sloppy logic in other aspects of life. Though I’m not a 1-Perfectionist in the Enneagram system (I’m a 5-Observer), I sometimes feel like one when it comes to correct English.

Compliments, Insults, and Other Challenges

When a woman says something deprecating about her body, her friends are likely to lie and say she looks fine to them, and then to say something bad about their own bodies in order to maintain the friendship as equals.

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