Perfectionism Has Great Rewards

Nobody would ever mistake me for a Perfectionist. The role of Nic played by Annette Bening in the movie "The Kids Are All Right" is a One-Perfectionist in the Enneagram though.

How to Achieve Self-Discipline

If you want to work on gaining One-like qualities, such as being more structured, organized, or exacting, use some of your favorite people the list below as models.

Criticism of the DSM-5 and a Suggestion, II

I suggest the American Psychological Association use the Enneagram system of personalities, which describes nine styles of behavior, from healthy to unhealthy.

How to Achieve Mellowness

If you want to work on gaining qualities the 9s have, use your favorites from the list of famous 9s below as models. 9-Peace Seekers tend to identify with the average person and the commonality we all share, and are often humanitarians.

How to Achieve Confidence

I wanted to be more assertive: Take a stand! Say what I think! Be who I am! So I tried to emulate the type itself and individuals I knew who were type 8-Asserters.

The Results of Anger Mixed with Delusions

“Last night we had our first physical fight after 50 years of marriage.” I attributed it to her dementia and changed mental condition.

Why Are Cellphones so Annoying?

Talking to someone who is not there hijacks the cognitive function of the bystanders. In other words, we want to fill in the missing part of the conversation when we only hear one side of it.

John Kerry, Enneagram Perfectionist

Kerry was the first Vietnam veteran to testify before Congress in 1971 against the Vietnam war.

Is Suicide More Likely If a Gun Is In the House?

My buddy Karl jumped off the Golden Gate bridge. People who use guns are 85% successful. People who use pills are 2% successful. Israel reduced the rate of suicide among soldiers by 40% by not allowing guns home on weekend leave. The more seriously we take the danger of guns the better, along with taking other measures to reduce violence.

Concrete Cases of Poverty in America

In this blog I want to bring the problem of poverty down to Earth with some concrete examples of what it’s like for children to go hungry here.

The Achievement Gap Between Privileged and Poor

Children whose prefrontal cortexes are stressed by poverty, highly dysfunctional environments, or major abuse have trouble regulating their thoughts and mediating their behavior. This was shown in a program where poor youth were given special attention and sent to an excellent high school. They got into college but few graduated.

Achieving Compassion by Using Our Heads

We think of compassion as an emotion of the heart. But our intellect can also be a great force for compassion...We can realize there’s nothing to gain by whipping somebody (i.e. revenge), nor does whipping ourselves with negative emotions do any good.

Healing After a Terrible Loss

We wonder how the loved ones of the school tragedy last month deal with their loss. This is the inspiring story of a woman who lost her daughter and granddaughter and her journey toward recovery one year later.

Cell Phones and the Rising Tide of Noise

The U.S. government has a project to minimize human sounds bothering sea animals. But what about ME and others like me? I am assaulted by sounds made by humans every day, too.

The Enneagram as a Standard for the DSM

Elizabeth predicts the Enneagram will be a useful standard for the American Psychiatric Association to use for its broad system of personality theory. It describes both healthy and unhealthy personality traits.

Are Petraeus and Broadwell Twin Achievers?

Petraeus was reportedly around special women more alluring than Paula Broadwell for years, but perhaps when he looked at her it may have been like Narcissus looking in the pond—he may have seen himself and liked what he saw.

What I Learned About Prisons at My School Reunion

Statistics say “Lifers” are the least likely of all released prisoners to commit another crime: .06%. But even though they may be deemed suitable for release, governors often refuse to release them for political reasons.

Is the Achiever My Genes, My Upbringing, or Me?

Scientists are more convinced than ever of the importance of both genes and environment on forming personality.

The Angelic Helper and the Helper from Hell

The two sides of the Enneagram Helper personality.
Elizabeth Wagele

How to Feel Less Frightened

How awareness of defenses help us go into and through our fears to the other side. Fear of life, fear of death, and the importance of meaning in one's life are also discussed.

Facing the Fear of Death, Part II

Part II of a description of defenses and how one person became aware of her main defense and faced her fear.

Facing the Fear of Death Part I

Conquering the fear of death requires confronting one's authentic feelings.

When Achieving Becomes a Problem

Are the results of the stress of Achieving worth it?

Polanski’s Movie "Carnage" and Personality Types: Part III (end)

Roman Polanski’s "Carnage" stars Kate Winslet, Jodie Foster, John C. Reilly, Christoph Waltz, and a cell phone.