Does Flawed English Annoy You?

Sloppy use of language, including redundancy, leads to sloppy logic in other aspects of life. Though I’m not a 1-Perfectionist in the Enneagram system (I’m a 5-Observer), I sometimes feel like one when it comes to correct English.

Compliments, Insults, and Other Challenges

When a woman says something deprecating about her body, her friends are likely to lie and say she looks fine to them, and then to say something bad about their own bodies in order to maintain the friendship as equals.

Enneagram Types in the Suspenseful Movie “Separate Lies”

The two main characters in "Separate Lies" are clear Enneagram types—the 1-Perfectionist, James, and the 2-Helper, Anne. James is busy striving at his office and going over details meticulously, and assumes his marriage is a happy one. Meanwhile, though, Anne feels he diminishes her, that she will never be the wife he wants her to be.

The Introverted Art Lover

Gurlitt’s father, Hildebrand, an exuberant, partly Jewish Nazi-era art dealer, at times worked for the Third Reich and was also friends with artists disliked by the Nazis.

Why Studying Music Is a Good Thing Part II

“These high achievers say music has sharpened: collaboration, creativity, discipline and the capacity to reconcile conflicting ideas. All are qualities notably absent from public life. Music may not make you a genius, or rich, or even a better person. But it helps train you to think differently, to process different points of view—and most important, to take pleasure in

Why Studying Music Is a Good Thing Part I

Many visionaries apply music’s lessons of focus and discipline into new ways of thinking and communicating—the power to focus on the present and the future simultaneously—even problem solving.

Psychology’s Bad Rap

Journalist Gaudiano pointed out that even though psychotherapies work better than drugs for depression and anxiety, “primary care physicians, insurers, policy makers, the public and even many therapists are unaware of the high level of research support that psychotherapy has.”

Talk About It: Healing PTSD

Experiences like temporal lobe epilepsy, as well as abuse, and violence, including horrors soldiers experience on the battlefield, can produce Post Traumatic Stress Disorder... Talking about these experiences neutralized them.

How to Achieve Success at Work, Part II

Enneagram 3-Achievers focus on striving for success. If you want to be a successful manager or to succeed in another way, a good way to do it is to copy Achievers you know or you’ve heard about, like Paul Venables

How to Achieve Success at Work, Part I

“My advertising-specific advice is ask for the headaches. Find something your boss is doing that he hates doing—it's difficult, painful, time-consuming—and say, ‘I'll take that,’ and make it great. Too many people ask for the choice assignments. Do the dishes really well and you'll be a valuable person."

How to Achieve Social Know-how

2-Helpers are valuable for helping others value themselves and for finding and acknowledging the goodness in people. If you want to improve your social skills, you can copy some of the personality traits of famous people who are Two’s or of Two’s you know.

Pessimism and Enneagram Type 6 - The Questioner

Tim Spector studied a group of identical twins to find out why some people are more positive about life than others. He identified some genes that are switched on in one twin and not in the other, and concluded that about half the personality differences between us are due to genetic factors.

Nostalgia—a Valuable Tool for Life

These who engage regularly in nostalgia were more likely than a control group to say they felt loved and “life is worth living.” It also helps us cope with death.

The Strangeness of Psychomotor Epilepsy

I watched the happy, fulfilled customers sitting at the other tables in the restaurant. How could they appear so perfectly adjusted and calm while an atom bomb was exploding in my head?

Death Cafés—Talk About an Important Subject

When people talk about death in these forums, death seems less frightening. With less fear of death, people can hopefully focus on living their lives more fully.

Perfectionism Has Great Rewards

Nobody would ever mistake me for a Perfectionist. The role of Nic played by Annette Bening in the movie "The Kids Are All Right" is a One-Perfectionist in the Enneagram though.

How to Achieve Self-Discipline

If you want to work on gaining One-like qualities, such as being more structured, organized, or exacting, use some of your favorite people the list below as models.

Criticism of the DSM-5 and a Suggestion, II

I suggest the American Psychological Association use the Enneagram system of personalities, which describes nine styles of behavior, from healthy to unhealthy.

How to Achieve Mellowness

If you want to work on gaining qualities the 9s have, use your favorites from the list of famous 9s below as models. 9-Peace Seekers tend to identify with the average person and the commonality we all share, and are often humanitarians.

How to Achieve Confidence

I wanted to be more assertive: Take a stand! Say what I think! Be who I am! So I tried to emulate the type itself and individuals I knew who were type 8-Asserters.

The Results of Anger Mixed with Delusions

“Last night we had our first physical fight after 50 years of marriage.” I attributed it to her dementia and changed mental condition.

Why Are Cellphones so Annoying?

Talking to someone who is not there hijacks the cognitive function of the bystanders. In other words, we want to fill in the missing part of the conversation when we only hear one side of it.

John Kerry, Enneagram Perfectionist

Kerry was the first Vietnam veteran to testify before Congress in 1971 against the Vietnam war.

Is Suicide More Likely If a Gun Is In the House?

My buddy Karl jumped off the Golden Gate bridge. People who use guns are 85% successful. People who use pills are 2% successful. Israel reduced the rate of suicide among soldiers by 40% by not allowing guns home on weekend leave. The more seriously we take the danger of guns the better, along with taking other measures to reduce violence.

Concrete Cases of Poverty in America

In this blog I want to bring the problem of poverty down to Earth with some concrete examples of what it’s like for children to go hungry here.

The Achievement Gap Between Privileged and Poor

Children whose prefrontal cortexes are stressed by poverty, highly dysfunctional environments, or major abuse have trouble regulating their thoughts and mediating their behavior. This was shown in a program where poor youth were given special attention and sent to an excellent high school. They got into college but few graduated.

Achieving Compassion by Using Our Heads

We think of compassion as an emotion of the heart. But our intellect can also be a great force for compassion...We can realize there’s nothing to gain by whipping somebody (i.e. revenge), nor does whipping ourselves with negative emotions do any good.

Healing After a Terrible Loss

We wonder how the loved ones of the school tragedy last month deal with their loss. This is the inspiring story of a woman who lost her daughter and granddaughter and her journey toward recovery one year later.

Cell Phones and the Rising Tide of Noise

The U.S. government has a project to minimize human sounds bothering sea animals. But what about ME and others like me? I am assaulted by sounds made by humans every day, too.

The Enneagram as a Standard for the DSM

Elizabeth predicts the Enneagram will be a useful standard for the American Psychiatric Association to use for its broad system of personality theory. It describes both healthy and unhealthy personality traits.

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