Enneagram teachers all over the world use The Enneagram Made Easy for their beginning students and longtime students alike. This blog includes parts of the chapter on 3-Achievers from The Enneagram Made Easy.
3-Achievers are motivated by the need to be productive, achieve success, and avoid failure.
3-Achievers at their BEST are optimistic, confident, industrious, efficient, self-propelled, energetic, and practical. 3-Achievers at their WORST are deceptive, narcissistic, pretentious, vain, superficial, vindictive, and overly-competitive.
How to get along with 3’s:
• Leave them alone when they are doing their work.
• Give them honest, but not unduly critical or judgmental, feedback.
• Help them keep their environment harmonious and peaceful.
• Don’t burden them with negative emotions.
• Tell them you like being around them
• Tell them when you’re proud of them and their accomplishments.
Things 3’s would never dream of doing:
• Not making a list of goals for an entire week.
• Saying nothing about their accomplishments at their high school reunion.
• Refraining from using the “seductive-eye technique” on the person they are interested in.
• Not taking over the meeting when it is being run inefficiently or ineffectively.
• Seeing a job that needs doing and not taking note of it.
• Spending one week just sitting at a silent meditation retreat.
What 3’s like about being a 3:
• Being friendly, optimistic, and upbeat.
• Providing well for their family.
• Being able to recover quickly from setbacks and to charge ahead to the next challenge.
• Staying informed; knowing what’s going on.
• Being able to motivate people.
What’s hard about being a 3:
• Having to put up with inefficiency and incompetence from others.
• The fear of not being – or not being seen as – successful.
• Comparing myself to people who do things better than I do.
• Struggling to hang on to my success.
• Always being “on” is exhausting.
These are the nine Enneagram types and the Enneagram symbol:
Comments about 3’s:
• “She writes the clearest and most concise reports in my company and inspires us with her work habits, enthusiasm, and sunny disposition.”
• “He is charming and has a way of making everyone feel special and important.”
• “My friend is self-assured and confident, has a lot of drive, and does more in a day than most people do in a week.”
• “She is the most purposeful person I know. She has made such great improvements in our community. She should run for president.”
•• See Famous Types at wagele.com
°° See my blog from last week on my Beethoven/Enneagram CD.