Are You an Enneagram Type 3-Achiever?

This blog includes parts of the chapter on 3-Achievers from "The Enneagram Made Easy".

How to Get Along with an Introvert

Invite introverts to join in, but don’t push them.

Are You a Helper?

Helper types will probably try to focus on your problems rather than their own.

Helmut Schmidt Was an Enneagram Type 8

“He was handsome, witty and supremely self-possessed. In public he was a magnetic speaker and a pugnacious debater.”

Do Today’s Teens Lack Character?

Teens who study the Enneagram learn to observe behavior and put themselves in others’ shoes, which builds kindness, caring, and character.

The Story of a Fierce 8-Asserter Facing Death

As an Asserter, Lester had difficulty giving up his power and sense of control. He insisted that I see him as a powerful man.

What Type Craves Time Alone & Time to Respond at Work?

Chuck doesn’t think about money or recognition. He just enjoys doing what he does well.

What Type Craves Independence & Stimulation at Work?

Most 5-Observers have little patience for small talk and resist getting trapped in a boring situation.

A Kinder, Gentler World Starting with Football?

Seahawks coach Carroll “embraces diversity, encourages free expression, promotes self-discovery and remains positive.”

When Teen Depression Leads to Suicide

“The only thing we should all fear is depression, a natural killer that we can effectively treat.” —Richard A. Friedman

Want to Have Fewer Morbid Thoughts?

Gregory Bratman and colleagues found volunteers were happier after walking briefly through a lush portion of their campus than volunteers who strolled an equal amount of time near heavy traffic.

Nine Kinds of Responsibility

We don’t all express our ability to be responsible in the same way.

Happiness and Your Enneagram Type

Jan Conlon, a One, says happiness to her means "seeing the perfection in absolutely everything. Finding the humor and gifts of growth in mistakes.”

Do You Ever Pretend You’re Somebody Else?

I decided I couldn’t live in a world without Robby. The only thing to do was to take his place. I’d have to become Robby. No, not “become Robby.” I’d be Robby.

Dealing With Trauma

Controlling what we remember could lead to programming trauma victims to eliminate painful memories and strengthening the ability to retain certain types of information.

The Enneagram: Teens Speak for Themselves, Part 2

Nine-Peace Seeker (avoiding conflict): “I looked different on the outside from how I felt inside. I felt different from what was around me. There didn’t seem to be a place for me in my family so I numbed myself—"

The Enneagram: Teens Speak for Themselves I

A taste of interviews of teens and former teens, types 1-4. See types 5-9 in my next blog June 16.

“American Psycho” and the Dark Side of 3’s

"The film reflects our own narcissism, and the shallow American culture it was spawned from, with piercing effectiveness.”

Does Having Empty Time Tend to Increase Your Creativity?

“You have to sit around so much doing nothing,” Gertrude Stein wrote on developing creative genius. F. Scott Fitzgerald thought boredom was necessary for writing: “You’ve got to go by or past or through boredom, as through a filter, before the clear product emerges.”

Do You Tend to Dread Loss or Anticipate Gain?

Losing money and getting bad grades are more painful to most people than winning money and getting good grades are pleasurable. Some have figured out that they’ll be more likely to succeed (at losing weight, for example) if they commit to sending money to a charity they hate if they fail to meet their goal.

What’s Hiding Under Pollyanna’s Smile?

Some Enneagram types value appearing positive more than others do. Many of us 5-Observers challenge the prevailing opinion or look at the negative side while searching for more information. Many introverts and some 5s, 4-Romantics, 8-Asserters and counter-phobic 6-Questioners dislike overly-optimistic language as it seems automatic and insincere.

What Would You Never Dream of Doing?

Ones (Perfectionists) Would Never Dream of: • being half an hour late to work • not making reservations for every night of their vacation • leaving their clothes in a heap and their dishes unwashed all week • using their sleeve for a napkin • taking a relaxing bath just before guests come

When Boys Feel Like Girls and Girls Feel Like Boys

“I told my mom, and she reacted extremely negatively, telling me that it was a phase, that I would never truly be a girl, that God doesn’t make mistakes, that I am wrong. If you are reading this, parents, please don’t tell this to your kids.”

For Type 5, 6, & 7 Teens: How to Be a Leader III

Use the typical strengths of your Enneagram type in your role as leader.

For Type 2, 3, & 4 Teens: How to Be a Leader II

Learn about all 9 Enneagram personality types because you have all 9 within you. One of them is your main type.

For Type 8, 9, & 1 Teens: How to Be a Leader

Leadership means forming a team to get something accomplished. The Enneagram teaches you to perceive your strengths, to use them with confidence, and to identify skills you could improve.

Don’t Spank Me!

“A study in 20 American cities, published in the American Academy of Pediatrics in 2013, found that young children in homes with little or no spanking showed swifter cognitive development than their peers. Other studies find that children in physically punitive schools perform worse.”

A Successful Opera Career In Spite of Her Voice

Magda’s fans bootlegged her recordings for decades and adored her with such passion, police had to stop them from dashing onto the stage. Opera lovers are usually very discriminating about vocal quality, but not Magda’s fans. So what kept them enthralled—her enthusiasm? Her sparkle?

When the Enneagram Saved a Life

Ben was tired of feeling like two people—the one he kept inside and the inauthentic one he showed to others. He was so miserable he had even come close to suicide. The Enneagram helped him to feel he belonged.

What Can We Learn from Delusions?

"The Golds point out Internet-enabled cameras and cell phones, not to mention National Security Agency snooping, have turned the entire world into a single, if virtual, city and ‘a bizarre delusion about being watched into a sober worry.'"