If you are reading this and someone you care about is suffering from alcoholism or drug addiction, my heart truly goes out to you. No one wants to be the bad guy and no one wants to point at the elephant in the room; it's not how any of us were raised. Believe me when I say that it's a war we are in, and that casualties can be prevented, and that most of what you need to do to win this war is intervene on the destructive behavior, draw a boundary, and stick to it. This is not an imaginary solution, it's a solution that works.
But, I've got to warn you going in: if you've really got what it takes, it's going to take everything you've got.
Here are some steps will help to guide you through the process.
An intervention is a success even if the client refuses to go to rehab, because at least the family has united to set a boundary. This means life will not be the same for the addict, and a process has started that will one day result in the addict getting treatment.
The above is an adapted excerpt from my book Alive Again: Recovering from Alcoholism and Drug Addiction.