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Do you ever wonder why some of your relationships go nowhere? Have you ever NOT felt that spark of attraction and passion...and wondered why? Did you ever lose that special connection with a lover?
Many people ask me these questions and more about dating and relating. They wonder why that first kiss didn't happen or felt weird. They wonder why that second date never happened. They wonder why things never got physical with a lover...or fizzled out in the bedroom with a spouse. The answer to all of their questions and more is TOUCH.
Look at any animal show on the Discovery channel. Animals don't court and mate with words, drinks, and dinners. They touch, nuzzle, stroke, and lick to flirt, seduce, communicate, persuade, and mate. Beneath all the trappings of our modern "dating", humans are no different. However, we often get so mixed up in talking that we forget to do what is really important. We forget how to flirt and seduce with touch!
Over the next several weeks, I will be sharing with you a series of articles on touch. I will be showing you how to seduce, flirt, attract, and persuade...with just a bit of touching, nuzzling, holding, and hugging. I'm going to help you see the importance of a "touch of love" and put a bit of physical contact back into your dating, relating, and mating.
Let's begin with some touching basics. Several research studies have found that touching creates liking and attraction. In other words, when you touch other people, they become more attracted to you. Here are some examples:
If you are interested in someone romantically, or in the early stages of dating, find an excuse to touch them. To start, any touch will do. Some common ways of socially-touching might include:
If you are trying to "revitalize" or "spark" an existing intimate relationship, then you can get a bit more personal in your touching. Some examples are:
Attraction is built through touching. Plain and simple. If you don't touch a date, lover, or mate, then attraction will not build (or fade away). So, make sure to rub your lover the right way. Find excuses, opportunities, and ways to touch as often as possible. Get comfortable with touch...and increase your ability to attract your lover.
Next week, in Part 2, I show you how touch can also be used to persuade a date or mate. See it here.
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Until next time...happy dating and relating!
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