If you struggle with telling yourself a story that you're ugly, consider changing that story. It's painful in the extreme to think that we're too ugly to live our best lives, yet so many of us feel this way. But that's a prison we create with our minds. With some compassionate attention and a shift in viewpoint, we can unlock that prison forever.
Why is happiness so important, and is it, in fact, even sustainable? And if we were happy all of the time, how would we learn to surf the waves of our emotions, and to gracefully dance with our shadows?
When we feel that we only fit into one definition - when we believe how others define us or when we define ourselves narrowly - we lose parts of ourselves or feel that we can't give voice to parts that don't fit with that definition.
What happens when we become overly identifed with a particular symptom, experience, or diagnosis? Is it just that it's comfortable to be in that place, do others help keep us in that box, and how can we expand our understanding of ourselves and our experience?
When you have this job, you're faced with more information on health and wellness issues than you may have ever been exposed to before. In the first stage, self-diagnosis, you binge on information, all of which promises to help you and everyone you know.
I joke sometimes that, with my job as a self-help editor, I should be the sanest person in the world. But, I still struggle, as we all do, with life events that cause pain or confusion and with mood and anxiety issues that I've had since childhood. This blog is meant to explore the links between self-help and actual self-change; how change happens, what happens when it doesn't, and even suggestions for things the self-help industry seems to be ignoring about the human mind. Here, we will explore what happens when the self-help rubber meets the road of the human mind.