How Important is Sex? Part 1

Keeping sexual passion alive and healthy is critical to sustaining an enduring and fulfilling partnership.

The Spirit of Generosity Part 1

If you have been in a working partnership for any length of time, you will have discovered that true love requires sacrifice and a spirit of generosity.

To Punish or to Teach?

How we handle mistakes can make a difference.

Grit and How to Grow It

“Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right.”

The Grudge Holder and the Guilt Catcher

For several years, this couple had a moderate level of satisfaction in their marriage even though they lived a financially marginal lifestyle.

What’s The Best Thing to Do to Make More Money?

I am a romantic. I believe that people should marry for love, but I am also practical. If being married will assist in the process of being financially fit, I’m all for it.

Having an Impact on Others

On the first day of school, she said to the class, “My name is Miss Jean Nelson, and I love you all the same.” But it wasn’t exactly true.

Island Wisdom

Even if you can't move to an island, small changes can help you live happily, in the moment.

The Art of Subtle Seduction, Part 2

He recognized his partner as a work in progress, rather than a fixed entity. He stopped taking her for granted.

Mastering the Art of Subtle Seduction Part 1

Mary and Jordan are a couple I worked with fell into a pattern of avoiding sex...

Myth of the Perfect Partner

Mary and Jordan are a couple I worked with fell into a pattern of avoiding sex because Jordan had come on too strong, too directly, without setting a context for love-making.

What Really Matters When You Choose a Partner

You may have a list of characteristics of the partner of your dreams, but it probably doesn't include everything you need for a fulfilling relationship.

Recovering From Adversity

When life bruises and wounds us, we can use even the scratches to etch a portrait of beauty and charm.

This Could Be the Biggest Threat to Your Relationship

It's often referred to as "the invisible addiction."

Post Traumatic Growth

Those of us who struggle with trauma, find that rising to the challenge reveals our hidden abilities that were formerly untapped.

Don’t Make the Mistake of Undervaluing Mistakes

And so instead of feeling horrible about the "mistake" he had made, the little boy experienced the "catastrophe" as something positive.

Myth: I’m Too Old to Find Love

Everyone dreams of finding sweet love.

Partner as Healer

As the trust and commitment in our relationship grew, I was able to speak to him about what I was experiencing: “I am a small, thin, delicate girl.

Why You and Your Partner Need to Celebrate Each Other

It's a bonding experience when our partner helps celebrate our successes and is not envious of our good fortune.

6 Steps to Getting Closer

Enjoying the transparency of another person is earned by building trust to the point where they know that their revelations will be treated with great respect.

Should You Really Tell Your Partner Everything?

So many of us had negative experiences in our past revealing our feelings and needs. We have been shamed and blamed for feeling the way we do.

Getting Serious About Your Marriage Is No Joke

It is a popular misconception that marriage counselors have some kind of magical powers that can fix relationships.

How Your Partner Is Also Your Mirror

When we learn effective conflict management skills, we learn to look at ourselves more of the time rather than at the other person.

The Myth of “I Should Have Done Better”

When we are living from the belief that “I should do better," and “other people should do better," it sets us up for chronic judgment, resentment, and disappointment.

The Art of Negotiation- Part 2

What if what’s true is that the institution of marriage isn’t the problem at all, but how people define it?

Mastering the Art of Negotiation-Part 1

When we each know ourselves well, and develop negotiation skills to lobby for have our needs met, we thrive.

Empathy Makes All the Difference: Part 2

When we cultivate empathy, the part of us that tends to be judgmental diminishes and other people immediately sense the shift in our attitude.

How to Become A More Empathic (and Less Defensive) Partner

Tension can quickly dissolve when we are sincerely willing try to empathize with the truth of our partner's feelings and perceptions.

Guilty of the Sin of Outdoing

Some families are truly happy to have their child outdo them. But others may resent our success.

Making Room for It All: Part 2

It’s easier said than done to accept our partner the way they are if we haven’t done our own work to know ourselves well.

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