Myth: I’m Too Old to Find Love

Everyone dreams of finding sweet love.

Partner as Healer

As the trust and commitment in our relationship grew, I was able to speak to him about what I was experiencing: “I am a small, thin, delicate girl.

A Great Way to Expand Your Capacity for Joy

It's a bonding experience when our partner helps celebrate our successes and is not envious of our good fortune.

6 Steps to Getting Closer

Enjoying the transparency of another person is earned by building trust to the point where they know that their revelations will be treated with great respect.

Should You Really Tell Your Partner Everything?

So many of us had negative experiences in our past revealing our feelings and needs. We have been shamed and blamed for feeling the way we do.

Getting Serious About Your Marriage Is No Joke

It is a popular misconception that marriage counselors have some kind of magical powers that can fix relationships.

How Your Partner Is Also Your Mirror

When we learn effective conflict management skills, we learn to look at ourselves more of the time rather than at the other person.

The Myth of “I Should Have Done Better”

When we are living from the belief that “I should do better," and “other people should do better," it sets us up for chronic judgment, resentment, and disappointment.

The Art of Negotiation- Part 2

What if what’s true is that the institution of marriage isn’t the problem at all, but how people define it?

Mastering the Art of Negotiation-Part 1

When we each know ourselves well, and develop negotiation skills to lobby for have our needs met, we thrive.

Empathy Makes All the Difference: Part 2

When we cultivate empathy, the part of us that tends to be judgmental diminishes and other people immediately sense the shift in our attitude.

How to Become A More Empathic (and Less Defensive) Partner

Tension can quickly dissolve when we are sincerely willing try to empathize with the truth of our partner's feelings and perceptions.

Guilty of the Sin of Outdoing

Some families are truly happy to have their child outdo them. But others may resent our success.

Making Room for It All: Part 2

It’s easier said than done to accept our partner the way they are if we haven’t done our own work to know ourselves well.

Making Room for It All – Part 1

We deepen our capacity to experience life in general when we have a close connection with another human being.

Myth: My Jealousy Shows How Much I Love My Partner

You have betrayed me. You have ruined our beautiful world.

Love Can Turn the Ordinary Into the Extraordinary

“It’s my marriage that has been the place that I have found that has met my deepest needs to experience purpose, meaning, and contribution in my life."

Got Loyalty?

Demonstrating loyalty in all the possible ways we can think of is a direct and mighty way to strengthen the bond.

Self-Referential is Being Internally Self Referenced

A life that is self-referential is one that is flexible, fluid, and creative.

Balancing the Commitment to Self and Other

Balancing the commitment to self and other is one of the hardest things we do in a long-term partnership, requiring on-going calibration.

The Myth of Being Unlovable Part 2

For those of us who have been limited by the mistaken notion that we are unlovable, busting this particular myth with take us a long way toward well-being.

The Myth of Being Unlovable, Part 1

When we are feeling unloved, our mind makes up a story about how unlovable we are, filling in details about our supposed faults.

Holding the Mast in the Dark Night Sea Storm

When we fight, it can feel like we are adrift in a violent, dark night sea storm.

25 Things to Know About Your Partner Before You Tie the Knot

“If I knew that about him (or her) before we got married, I wouldn’t have been so quick to go ahead with the wedding".

The Art of Friendship in Marriage

Friendship is not always sweet, warm, and secure. There has to be room for confrontation and the darker parts of life.

If I Know What I Need to Do, Why Can’t I Just Do It?

While the desire for change is something that we are aware of, there is a counter desire that we may not be aware of to prevent change, regardless of what it is.

The Best Therapy Is a Great Relationship

At its best, psychotherapy creates a warm and understanding relationship.

Re-setting Your Happiness Set Point Part 2

What practices can raise your set point for happiness?

Re-setting Your Happiness Set Point: Part 1

“The purpose of life is to be happy” - His Holiness the Dalai Lama

Sometimes Togetherness is the Problem, not the Solution

The notion that great marriages are not about comfort and security isn’t news to those of us who have been married or anyone who has ever been in a stagnant relationship.

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