Freedom and Power Must Be Grown from Inside

Living with a commitment to a balanced life doesn’t mean that we never get off track or caught up in one thing or another.

The Cure for an Imperfect Childhood

Some of us got off to a rough start in life, and for many of us, our childhood was missing the kinds of experiences that every child needs in order to thrive.

Playing Out Our Childhood Role

The roles that Dr. Napier refers to have to do with the functions that were assigned to us in our families, usually by our parents when we were very young, sometimes...

Family of Choice

Borrowing relatives from other families.

Be Your Own Hero

Albert Einstein talked about this kind of respect when he wrote: "A human being is part of the whole called by us 'universe', a part limited in time and space..."

Read this before heading home for the holidays...

Holidays, family meals, and reunions can include “spirited” conversations, and “enthusiastic” exchanges of opinions over the dinner table...

The Situation Is Urgent

There is usually one in the pair that can process information more rapidly than the other...

Really Getting Real! Part 2

What follows is an example of what such a self- characterization can sound like when it is delivered at the beginning of a relationship with the intention...

Really Getting Real! Part 1

Being clear about our intention, regarding a future relationship is a crucial factor in the process of finding a suitable and appropriate partner...

Ordinary Magic

Intimacy is so often contained in the ordinary moments: a lingering gaze, a brief touch, a hug, a gentle word of encouragement.

No Search and Destroy: Part 3

Here is a good example of a couple that has been doing Shadow work, by interrupting a downward spiral and turning a breakdown into a valuable conversation.

No Search and Destroy Part 2

We may find it helpful to befriend our shadow when we discover that these figures aren’t completely bad as we might at first have assumed.

No Search and Destroy Part 1

The process of discovering our hidden parts is not about “search and destroy.” Search and befriend is probably a better way to put it...

Setting the Stage for Emotional Intimacy

Often, people ask us about the best way to set the stage for intimacy. Often, when they do, they are talking about a physical connection.

The Power of Ritual

Rituals are actions that support the deepening of our spiritual and emotional connections. They bring extra brightness and fulfillment into our lives.

100 Practices for Great Relationships

This list will assist you in identifying where your work is still required to become eligible for a great relationship.

Taming the Wild Beasts

In learning to live in integrity with the truth of our experience rather than from a commitment to protection, we begin to cultivate the kinds of qualities...

Even Happy People Get the Blues

Regardless of what we do, life will at some point bring us losses, disappointments, and instances of physical and emotional pain. Pain is inevitable; suffering is optional.

Longing for Redemption

When we feel ourselves to be incomplete or lacking a sense of wholeness, we often seek out others to fill our emptiness...

Harmlessness

When we imagine the depths that we can move to if we live a life without inner conflict, our motivation to practice harmlessness with others and ourselves increases....

Seeing the Big Picture

It’s impossible on the basis of any given experience to accurately assess the true consequence to our lives.

September is National Suicide Prevention Month

Accounts of coming through a suicidal depression to create a healthy, wholesome life are especially inspiring. They say that sometimes it’s necessary to hit bottom before...

Violence Comes in Many Forms

he dictionary defines violence as “injurious physical force, action or treatment intended to inflict harm.” The most important word in this definition is “intended"...

Relationship as Spiritual Practice: Part 4

To consider death and loss helps to keep us awake, for we don’t have forever to show those we love how we feel about them. We don’t have a moment to lose.

Relationship as Spiritual Practice: Part 3

The taking of vows: In a transformative relationship, there is a lot of change. Each individual changes over time, and the needs of the relationship change.

Relationship as Spiritual Practice Part 2

Practices of sacred partnership are numerous, but here are some that we have found to be tremendously helpful. Please don’t be confined to these offerings of practices.

Relationship as Spiritual Practice, Part 1

Most people think of spiritual practice as going to church or temple, prayer, singing of hymns, chanting, ritual, and meditation rather than daily interactions with other human.

The Antidote to Grudgeholding

In July of 1984, Jennifer Thompson was a 22-year-old college student in Burlington, North Carolina, just about to graduate. She had a boyfriend, also a college student...

The Hidden Gifts of the Shadow

You may have noticed that the word “shadow” has been showing up with great frequency lately in popular culture and in the media.

Life Long Learning

he Buddhists refer to such a state of openness as “beginner’s mind.” They regard this orientation as the curiosity of a child’s mind, and believe that it is an enlightened way....

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