Really Getting Real! Part 2

What follows is an example of what such a self- characterization can sound like when it is delivered at the beginning of a relationship with the intention...

Really Getting Real! Part 1

Being clear about our intention, regarding a future relationship is a crucial factor in the process of finding a suitable and appropriate partner...

Ordinary Magic

Intimacy is so often contained in the ordinary moments: a lingering gaze, a brief touch, a hug, a gentle word of encouragement.

No Search and Destroy: Part 3

Here is a good example of a couple that has been doing Shadow work, by interrupting a downward spiral and turning a breakdown into a valuable conversation.

No Search and Destroy Part 2

We may find it helpful to befriend our shadow when we discover that these figures aren’t completely bad as we might at first have assumed.

No Search and Destroy Part 1

The process of discovering our hidden parts is not about “search and destroy.” Search and befriend is probably a better way to put it...

Setting the Stage for Emotional Intimacy

Often, people ask us about the best way to set the stage for intimacy. Often, when they do, they are talking about a physical connection.

The Power of Ritual

Rituals are actions that support the deepening of our spiritual and emotional connections. They bring extra brightness and fulfillment into our lives.

100 Practices for Great Relationships

This list will assist you in identifying where your work is still required to become eligible for a great relationship.

Taming the Wild Beasts

In learning to live in integrity with the truth of our experience rather than from a commitment to protection, we begin to cultivate the kinds of qualities...

Even Happy People Get the Blues

Regardless of what we do, life will at some point bring us losses, disappointments, and instances of physical and emotional pain. Pain is inevitable; suffering is optional.

Longing for Redemption

When we feel ourselves to be incomplete or lacking a sense of wholeness, we often seek out others to fill our emptiness...

Harmlessness

When we imagine the depths that we can move to if we live a life without inner conflict, our motivation to practice harmlessness with others and ourselves increases....

Seeing the Big Picture

It’s impossible on the basis of any given experience to accurately assess the true consequence to our lives.

September is National Suicide Prevention Month

Accounts of coming through a suicidal depression to create a healthy, wholesome life are especially inspiring. They say that sometimes it’s necessary to hit bottom before...

Violence Comes in Many Forms

he dictionary defines violence as “injurious physical force, action or treatment intended to inflict harm.” The most important word in this definition is “intended"...

Relationship as Spiritual Practice: Part 4

To consider death and loss helps to keep us awake, for we don’t have forever to show those we love how we feel about them. We don’t have a moment to lose.

Relationship as Spiritual Practice: Part 3

The taking of vows: In a transformative relationship, there is a lot of change. Each individual changes over time, and the needs of the relationship change.

Relationship as Spiritual Practice Part 2

Practices of sacred partnership are numerous, but here are some that we have found to be tremendously helpful. Please don’t be confined to these offerings of practices.

Relationship as Spiritual Practice, Part 1

Most people think of spiritual practice as going to church or temple, prayer, singing of hymns, chanting, ritual, and meditation rather than daily interactions with other human.

The Antidote to Grudgeholding

In July of 1984, Jennifer Thompson was a 22-year-old college student in Burlington, North Carolina, just about to graduate. She had a boyfriend, also a college student...

The Hidden Gifts of the Shadow

You may have noticed that the word “shadow” has been showing up with great frequency lately in popular culture and in the media.

Life Long Learning

he Buddhists refer to such a state of openness as “beginner’s mind.” They regard this orientation as the curiosity of a child’s mind, and believe that it is an enlightened way....

A Good Marriage Is Better Than Therapy

A loving marriage can heal old emotional wounds more effectively than the best therapy. At its best, psychotherapy creates a warm and understanding relationship.
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The Ecstasy that Comes with Balance

My husband and I have interviewed is that one of the reasons they are enjoying their relationship so thoroughly is because they are fluid, experimental, and creative....

The Bandwagon Effect

The bandwagon effect is a psychological phenomenon whereby people do something primarily because others are doing it, regardless of their own beliefs.

Sublime Stretching

Negotiation is the process of communicating back and forth for the purpose of reaching a joint decision.

In the Eyes of the Beholder

Many of us toss around the notion of "the truth" as though there is an incontestable, objective "reality" and that we know what it is...

30 Practices to Boost Well Being

There is a strong element of choice in our level of happiness. Indeed we do decide to be happy, but that’s only for starters. Then we are challenged to cultivate happiness.

Feeling Lost? Part 3

When you begin to master the tasks of the wanderer, caregiver, warrior, and orphan, you move into the intimacy stage. All along we have had unpredictable episodes of intimacy.

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