A friend of mine told me of his work overseas. For the first two or three years he lived there, the people he worked with assumed he was of borderline intellectual functioning. They scratched their head at the way he thought, acted, and believed.
It wasn't a very good way to feel.
Yet, those of us who don't have Asperger's or autism often make those who do feel "less than" or "not as good as us." A lot of us are very well intentioned, but we can buy into Asperger myths and stereotype without meaning to.
Here are 7 Autism Quotes from autism Aspeger adults about an array of topics to help us better understand the autism spectrum.
As Autistics, we spend a great deal of time working to understand things from a NT perspective. Our entire lives actually. And it is difficult, some things, honestly I will never understand, such as participating in a rowdy group of screaming kids running through a playground. But it’s apparent to me that that it is what they like. And that overwhelming, over-stimulating, anxiety-inducing ‘play’ is what makes them happy. And that’s lovely! It wasn’t my choice of fun when I was a child – I was definitely a sand-sifter – and there’s nothing wrong with that. We need you to try and see things from our perspective, and that means taking a step back and looking at things very differently.
And that’s the beauty in neurodiversity. That’s what makes us all individuals. It cannot be about imposing our rules and beliefs on someone else because it makes us more comfortable as a society. And it won’t always be about understanding, but I truly believe it has to be about
Consider this: If you look at us with NT expectations, you may see us as difficult or even impossible to understand. But, if you take a moment and try to experience the world as we do – and we’ll show you if you let us – you will find a unique and beautiful way of
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Adults do not grow out of having Asperger’s syndrome, but rather, after living a lifetime of observing others and figuring out for themselves which environments and people are best suited for them, many adults with Asperger’s syndrome grow into a deeper acceptance of themselves and therefore seek out lifestyles, where possible, that better suit their needs.
... A common misconception is that there is only one kind of meltdown. This is what makes it seem so elusive to onlookers who want desperately to problem solve when their autistic child/loved one is in the throes of what they think is a meltdown. What worked last time might not work this time, and a trigger that seemed to be mild last Thursday might be too much today. There's different types of meltdowns, as well as different combinations of things that tend to set one off at different times, and believe it or not is even unpredictable to many of us adults who are very self aware.
Growing up, I always felt ashamed about being socially awkward. I struggle to process social data…and this can make even the simplest conversation a challenge to navigate.
Then, later in life, I realized something important: how people relate to social awkwardness actually provides me with useful information about them. If they pay no attention to a mistake, seem interested in true connection and not just surface-level stuff…this is an interesting, comfortable person to be around. If they are thrown off by delays and verbal stumbles…if they find them to be ‘strange’, embarrassing…this is a petty, judgmental person. Who needs them?
Awkwardness, I learned, actually functions as a form of social radar…it helps me identify people to avoid. It’s a strength, not a weakness. And I can’t help but think:
People who are adept at small talk? They often have no idea how much social info they are missing out on.
To me, life with differences often gets down to developing these little tricks. You take something the world wants you to hide…and you flip the script…you own that trait in a way that makes you stronger, that reverses what the world wants.
Advice for dating, from Jesse Saperstein, author of Getting a Life With Aspergers
When talking to a potential date, he (Jesse) says,
“I have Asperger’s and this is how I communicate. If this bothers you, you just need to tell me so I’ll do better in the future.”
This quote comes from @AspieSavant.
... when they notice they're "different" from their peer group and they want to understand why.
The "Autism" label helps someone (kid or adult) understand better what makes them different and that there still are many others just like them... even though they may not know any. That can be both comforting and educational.
There's nothing negative about having Autism or knowing you have Autism as long as you realize that it comes with unique gifts as well as unique weaknesses.
As a parent, don't focus on the weaknesses. As a parent, focus on both the strengths AND the weaknesses. Embrace your child's Autism rather than trying to "fix" it or get scared of it.
If you want your child to reach his/her full potential, it is essential you do not see him/her as "broken" but rather as "made out of different material".
Autistic people are neither inferior nor superior to other people. We're just different. While some of us may be mentally challenged, others among us are geniuses. While some of us may be social retards, others have high profile corporate jobs.
You shouldn't judge a person by his/her Autism any more than you should judge a person by their gender, their race, their religion or their political preference. Autism defines us as individuals no more than your gender, your race, your religion or your political preference defines you as an individual.
The better you know and understand Autism the more you realize that there is no greater diversity among humans than there is among Autistic people. The only things all Autists share is the inability to process most information subconsciously and -- related to that -- the lack of a genetic blueprint for how to develop our cognitive abilities.
It is this lack of a genetic blueprint that makes us so different. You could say that we're on the outliers of human diversity. We're the extreme extraverts and the extreme introverts. We're the extremely antisocial and the extremely social. We're the extremely creative and the extremely uncreative. We're the extremely passionate and the extremely dispassionate. Take any extreme aspect of human nature and you'll find some Autists so whom it applies.
So don't judge us by our Autism. Please don't! There are really no two people less alike than those on opposite sides of the Autistic spectrum.
I believe that you deserve a place to belong.
I believe that you deserve relationships where you can be your whole self, your real self, the self that doesn’t have it all figured out, the self that makes mistakes, the self that hates itself sometimes. I believe that you deserve people who will see your whole self and accept you wholeheartedly.
I believe that within you is the spark of the divine, that your screw ups and your baggage do not have the power to define you, that no matter what you think of yourself and no matter the names that others have called you, you are overflowing with beauty and passion and potential. I believe that it is good that you are alive, and that your life is a gift to the people who love you and to the people who have not met you yet but who will love you one day.
Dan Wendler, author and blogger, Improve Your Social Skills
Aren't these some great autism quotes? What are some autism quotes by autism Asperger's adults that have helped you the most? Please comment below!