All Electronic Devices Should Be Off the Thanksgiving Table

These are kids for whom it is not unusual to make a quick leap from the first awakening of sexual awareness to the first consummation of sexual experience. They haven’t had to wait for anything else--why wait for that?

Why Is Your Relationship a Secret?

Historically, the closest a young woman could get to having power was to have sex with a man who had it. If the powerful man desires a woman privately, could he really deny publicly that she's the love of his life?

What I'm Reading Now

One of the main reasons I read outside my own narrow areas of individual expertise is to see whether I can reach over the intellectual fences demarcating professional fields and harvest something useful.

Why Halloween Can Bring Out The Best In Us

Halloween is all about trusting those you don’t know well, whether you are knocking on their doors or opening your own to them. How remarkable in today's world.

Wine, Ink, Women and Revenge

"He’d done something permanent to my idea of myself and I wanted to do the same thing to him” she explained.

Why "Twilight" is Worse Than Just a Bad Book

Why is "Twilight" scary? As a romantic fantasy, it's a damaging one; for a trashy book, it's a lousy one; and as an for escape for a young woman who's longing to break out of her everyday confinements, it's a trap.

Bad Teachers Can Damage You-- or Make You Stronger

From one very bad teacher, I learned that intelligence without emotional generosity means nothing, that narcissism unchecked is poisonous and that sometimes it is far more honorable to be refused membership to a group than to be part of it. That lesson left welts.

Do You Lie About Your Age?

When I was a teenager I wanted to be thought of as older. Older girls seemed sophisticated, hip, and independent. Now that I am ACTUALLY older, it’s younger women who seem sophisticated, hip, and independent. Go figure.

Good, Better and Best Advice for Life After 50

When you tell yourself that your best days are behind are, you pretty much guarantee that they are. Stop worrying about what will happen in ten years because life in ten years won’t be anything like what you’re imaging now.

Your Over-Parenting Can Damage Your Child's Education

Teachers have gone from mentoring students to monitoring students. They're urged to report accounts of unblemished success to the parents. That's not an education.

Dear Beach-Going Friends...

Will someone think the patterns on my bathing suit secretly spell out the phrase “Do not resuscitate”?

Do You Prefer You Pets to Your Friends?

Pets are like a combination between court jesters and strict Freudian therapists: They can make you feel better about the world while never saying a word.

Donald Trump, Political Correctness, Ignorance and Comedy

Political correctness is like spell-check for your mouth. Trump means to sound the way he does-- and he wants everyone else to echo him; that's why Trump’s name needs to be erased from the political chalkboard. PC stand for "perfectly civilized," which is what any American leader must be.

6 Things Women Secretly Know About Relationships

We want to be your friend but if we’re sexually/erotically involved, we want to be acknowledged as more than your friend. If we’re living together, you shouldn’t say, “This is my housemate” or “This is my roommate.” If we’ve been a couple, openly and happily, for more than a few months, let’s figure out a way to present ourselves to the world as more than “just friends.”

Fears: Staring Straight into the Dark of What Scares You

People have talked sense to me. When you’re frightened everybody tells you things that make perfect sense. That’s when you realize it isn’t sense you’re looking for.

The Color Kittens: Best Children's Book Ever

The Color Kittens, perhaps more than Timothy Leary and The Beatles, may be responsible for generations of youth saying "It's the colors, man" while looking at psychedelic visions. The Color Kittens continues to capture my heart and my imagination because there is something about the sheer messiness of discovery and creativity that Hush and Brush that's perfect in its chaos

The Smart One or the Pretty One? Pretty Is as Pretty Does

"'She’s really pretty, but it’s like she doesn’t even know it!' people would say admiringly of certain girls. Only then can you forgive a girl for being pretty: if she’s an idiot or a liar." Maggie Mitchell

Do You Know Your Father? Do You Like Him?

A bad father attaches an emotional price tag to everything, meaning that your success is his success, your failure is his failure and, essentially, nothing is ever yours. He’s not there as a support or a guide but as an overseer and a judge.

"Sorry, Honey, I Wasn't Listening. What Did You Say?"

Your partner might say, “I don’t mean to interrupt your discussion of my lack of affection, but look at this right away! Isn’t it the Goodyear blimp? Wow. Amazing. Now what were you talking about?”

5 Ways to Know When to Leave the Relationship

You don't want to go home anymore. You don't look forward to seeing or being in the actual company of the person with whom you are intimately involved. You prefer the idea of the relationship to the reality of it; you have an idealized image of the beloved that is far enough removed from the everyday, authentic person that being in his or her presence undermines, erodes an

Food Hypocrisy

If you eat rice cakes all day, you will not be happy, especially if it’s not rice cakes that you crave. And who craves rice cakes?

10 Essential Humor Lessons

The amusing, creative and witty person in a group is among the most powerful of its members.

Are You a Promiscuous Shopper?

I’ve been known to unashamedly grab something off a shelf if I knew it would make me happy for a few months, a few weeks, even—dare I admit it—a few days. That’s the kind of loose shopper I am.

Do You Like Your Sister?

Sympathy, compassion, understanding, respect, generosity and a willingness to forgive are essential features of every important relationship, including ones between members of an immediate family.

5 Hard-To-Hear Truths About Your Kids

You don't set any boundaries or offer any guidelines for his behavior. He's the one who dominates the scene and we cower before his demands. We spent two hours attempting to please, placate, entertain and quiet him down.

How Old is an Old(er) Woman?

The new BOND female lead is FOUR YEARS OLDER than Edith Bunker. There's more for women over fifty to do with their hands these days.

Object Permanence In Adult Life

Eye contact, a pat on the back, a smile of appreciation, and a shared laugh-out-loud of sheer pleasure are the best and most direct signals of communication, after all.

Joni Mitchell on New York Magazine: Is The Photo Disturbing?

I hope to see my idols looking and sounding as if they are enjoying themselves as they reach the season of harvest (not so very far away from any of us). That's what I long for but very rarely see.

Women Don't Trust Ourselves--or The World. Let's Change That

As good girls, we were taught never to trust ourselves or our own reactions. We can’t tell if we’re hungry; we only know what we shouldn’t eat. We don’t know if we’re tired; we only know we’re not getting enough sleep. We aren’t sure that we’re fit, we only know we’re not sleek. We believe we're not good enough, no matter what. Can we change that, please?