My Gay Uncle: When Diversity Was Deviance

It was only after my uncle died that I found a photograph of him and Fred dressed as Rhett and Scarlett; Fred was a coy Vivian Leigh and my uncle a smiling Clark Gable.

Are You A Parenting "Know It All"?

"Parenthood is a contagious disease," Jeff Terry observes. "It's like smoking. Even though we can witness, firsthand, the devastation caused by parenting, it spreads.”

Did Your Father's Advice Shape Your Life?

Even if most fathers mean well, their advice needs a context.

The Good Husband as Failed Lover

Romance can be a form of narcotic for a certain kind of woman, and Emma Bovary is the embodiment of the woman whose life can be shattered by too heavy a dependence on fantasy.

5 Best Topics for Polite Conversation (and Bonus Tips!)

With a few questions, you can learn something significant about a person's life.

When Is the Best Time to Have Sex?

Misinformation about sex is just about as pernicious as no information about sex. Both are worse than having lots of information about sex.

Do You Need Mother's Apology? What Should Your Mom Say?

Nobody said being a mother was easy; perhaps it's time to say that being a daughter to a certain kind of mother is very, very hard.

Get Fluent in Life: Learn How, Why, and Ways to Do It Better

What do you wish you'd had the opportunity, the talent, the strength, and the discipline to place into your life's intellectual carry-on?

Peekaboo: Joy Might Just Surprise You

Remembering to laugh is essential. It can’t make the darkness go away, but it does admit the light.

Hiding in the Basement? Life's Scary But Fear Shouldn't Win

Do you want to be measured by what you avoided in life or by what you embraced?

Choosing a College or University: Why Go Public?

Leave the ivy. Take the education.

Can Somebody Please Teach President Trump Civility?

Previously immune from the consequences of his own instincts, President Trump doesn't act like an adult.

How I Learned to Stop Whining and Why It Was a Great Lesson

It took me a long time to realize “vulnerable,” "insecure" and “adorable” were not the same thing. Whining is not attractive. I had to learn that and it was a good lesson.

Are You Always Busier Than Everyone Else? Do You Want to Be?

Instead of enjoying our time, we learned to manage it. We pass the day checking off tasks from lists as is if having to prove to Life's Parking Attendant we were here legally.

Happiness Needs an Invitation, Misery Barges In

Joy and pleasure are, instead, excellent guests and, as such, they wait for an invitation. You have to open the door to life’s best moments; you have to invite them in.

How Mary Tyler Moore Made My Life Better: Women in TV

The opening season gave Mary a tentative vote of confidence by saying "You MIGHT just make it after all" but switched to the more politically charged: "You're GONNA" that we loved.

50 Poets You Should Read Now: An English Professor's List

Let me know what poets from this list whose work you love and let me know, too, what names you think I should have included.

Thanks for the Small Stuff: It Makes a Big Difference

Eye-contact and a smile. That's human contact at its most basic—something for which we should all be grateful.

How to Relax and Enjoy Life in a Fear-Mongering World

Take a pen or pencil with you and write out what scares you. Make a story out of it it. Then it's yours; it's not something that happens to you. It's something you own.

Why Barbie Dolls Matter in the 2016 Presidential Election

For over fifty years the girls and young women of America have been told that we can be anything. But all we’ve really seen is our dolls becoming those things--until now.

A Broad, Studying: My Semester in London, 1977

When you live in another country, you learn that you carry the ability to make a life for yourself wherever you are. It's a lesson that should never be underestimated.

Were the 1970s Better or Worse Than the 60s?

Ah, the 1970s, when we used our own heads as one giant roller. When Jade East, English Leather, Herbal Essence, Jonathan Livingston Seagull and Pursettes filled our backpacks.

100 Books You Should Read Now: An English Professor's List

Of all the novels on this list, how many have you read and enjoyed? Which books aren't here that you regard as essential? (Why aren't Hemingway or Melville here? I'm not a fan...)

Looking for Work? 9 Things You Need to Know and Do

Remember: there are a lot of jobs out there, just like there are a lot of apartments or potential true loves. You only need one. (You might want more, but you only need one.)

5 Powerful Strategies for Handling Unexpected Conflicts

Keep your sense of humor and make careful, gentle use of it. But guard against the temptation to become snarky. Lighten the mood; don’t unleash the sarcasm and satire that bites.

Making Your Inner Monologues More Effective: Use Your Name

If I started emailing myself notes "Dear nervous, hard-working Gina" when stressed, my friends wouldn't think I was getting healthy; they'd think I was going "Fight Club" on them.

Can Animals Be Holy?

A new book makes us question the sacred, the human and the future of our world.

The Best Book for Serious (And Humor) Writers

Advises Lerner, "If you are a writer, especially one who has been unable to make your work count or stick, you must grab your demons by the neck and face them down."
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6 Slippery Truths About Summer

4. Playing with an outdoorsy accessory called a “fire pit” in your backyard does not make you One With the Elements or even one of the Mother of Dragons from “Game of Thrones.”

Six Honest Answers About Writing and Publishing Your Book

On my bulletin board at work, I’ve posted a small clip that reads: “Of the 86,000 new titles published in the UK in 2009, 59,000 sold an average of 18 copies.” Publishing is hard.

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