Jane Austen knew a secret or two about the problems with ambiguity in romance and love. Her most beloved novels hinge on a female character's misunderstandings on which man is the best for her, until time and circumstances reveal the truth.
Studies show that having a baby, especially the first baby, can be hard on marital happiness. Of course, the story is much more complex than that. But is the happiness of the couple the only type of happiness that matters most to you in life? Maybe there is something else that matters in life that is more about family happiness than just couple happiness.
They never tell you when you are little that you will one day clip the toenails of your parents or siblings. Such little things must amount to great differences in the quality of life as we age. If you needed one more reason to build and maintain lifelong, loving relationships. . .
Married and want to stay that way? You can do a lot to impact your odds of lasting love. While the odds of divorce remain high, there's nothing that says you have to become a statistic. Check in here for strategies you can use n what you can do to make that difference.
Things move fast these days in the world of romance. One of the problems that people often do not see coming is making it harder to break up before really deciding if the person they are seeing is right for them. That happens all the time (now) because it's become so easy to increase constraints that lock you in before developing deeper dedication and knowledge of the fit.
There have long been arguments about the divorce rate—what it really is, where the numbers come from, and what that means for couples today. I go deep into the backstory of the arguments about the risk for divorce and the complexity of what many think should be such an obvious number to report.
You know you are seeing it. Ambiguity reigns in dating, romantic, and sexual relationships outside of marriage (marriage is not very ambiguous). I've argued before that this is motivated. There are reasons why people like to keep things vague now when it comes to dating and mating. It seems that break-ups are now more ambiguous than ever, and there are reasons for caution.
Customs like giving an engagement ring have a lot of history, and the customs are related to deeper themes about biology, babies, and signals of commitment. In this piece, I explore these themes by starting with the question, “should Tyra keep the engagement ring she got from Sam? (After he dumped her?)
There is an interesting history to the use of engagement rings in Western culture, and there are even more interesting ideas about the role of emblems of commitment—like engagement rings. Why, traditionally, does the man give the engagement ring and not vice versa? Should a person give the ring back if the engagement is broken?
At some point in relationships, one of the two partners will be the first to feel a strong need for clarity about where things are headed—if indeed they are headed anywhere. Time is moving on, and it becomes time to get some clarity. There are many reasons, however, why the other partner may avoid this big picture DTR. I describe three of them here.
As romantic relationships have become more ambiguous, the need for having “the talk” or defining one’s relationship has grown. But it is widely recognized that these talks are often avoided. Here, I describe some of the reasons why.
For decades, people have believed that living together should increase their odds of doing well in marriage because it provides a good test of the relationship beforehand. But there is almost no research support for this being true, which creates a mystery that I try to explain.