A reader, Jennifer, wrote asking for advice:
Hi, can you give us advice on how to sleep train our twin 14 month olds? We have separated them because twin one needs to be totally calm before she sleeps and seeing her twin is too exciting or agitating (depending on her mood). Twin two needs a lot of cuddles and rubbing of her back to get her to sleep. We also separated them because twin two does not sleep through the night and needs water (bottle sucking) or cuddles overnight whereas twin one often sleeps through. We really would like to be able to just put them in their cribs for sleep without cuddles and for twin two to sleep through. And we want to be able to have them in the same room so my husband and I can be back in the same room! (We only have a two bedroom flat.)
Our current routine is bath, bottle, book, one more swig of bottle, brushing teeth and then bed. Please help! Thanks!
Thanks for your email. You certainly do have your hands full, and it sounds like twin #2 is filling your nights with more excitement than you’d like.
From your email, I understand that twin #1 has learned how to fall asleep on her own, but that twin #2 is unable to do so without your help (having her back rubbed, being given multiple drinks across the night). The good news is that that’s really all it’s about: learning new sleep patterns, and her twin’s success with this is proof that she, too, can do the same.
If you’ve decided that you’d like to teach her how to fall asleep on her own, I’d suggest the following:
You should see an improvement within a few days.
Dennis Rosen, M.D.
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