You've been working hard to eat better, but one day you binge at Taco Bell. Or, you've tried to quit smoking several times, and only reached three weeks in the most recent attempt.
I don't mean this sarcastically; research in the field of behavior change suggests that each time you "fail," you increase your odds of eventual success.
Let's look at the true nature of setbacks, and what you can do to make them a positive part of your self-improvement efforts. In addition, let's see how to keep setbacks from spiraling out of control and into a vicious cycle of shame:
Regardless of our goals, slow and steady progress, even with a few setbacks sprinkled in, works just fine.
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I am the co-author of Dying of Embarrassment, Painfully Shy, and Nurturing the Shy Child. Dying of Embarrassment: Help for Social Anxiety & Phobia was found to be one of the most useful and scientifically grounded self-help books in a research study published in Professional Psychology, Research and Practice. I’ve also been featured in the award-winning PBS documentary, Afraid of People. Greg and I also co-authored Illuminating the Heart: Steps Toward a More Spiritual Marriage.
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