Give yourself a break. Check out Wilson Picket performing Land of a Thousand Dances in 1967. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kk4Uwge4DzQ Get down (as we used to say) into your own body. Shake your thing. Experience yourself from the inside out. Then tell us whether you really give a good cahoots about intellectualizing about boobs and adultery and porn.
Your own deep sensuality is the antidote for tedious speculation. Your pleasure is Basement Medicine supreme.