So many women have asked me how to get their sexy on—in their own bodies. They want to know how they can turn themselves on. Do they need a partner? Can they relight their own pilot light with young children to raise, or a sexually stale relationship? It's the million dollar question; how can we raise our sexual desire up a notch or two? We want to feel better in our own bodies. And we want to do it without sitting on a therapist couch. I get it. And so do the readers of "Fifty Shades of Grey" by E. L. James which has "Mommies" softly moaning alongside the heroine Anastasia Steele in the run away best seller that is all the rage from playgrounds to senior citizen community centers around the country.

Anastasia Steele, Fifty Shades' 21-year-old heroine "surrenders" her virginity to the sexually dominate Christian Grey who literally brings Ana to her knees. Are you interested yet? Lady Porn or Mommy Porn has a long literary tradition from "The Story of O" to the fabulous erotica of Anne Rice. Some of us get so turned on and inspired that we even go on our own journey, as I did in Shameless: How I Ditched The Diet, Got Naked, Found True Pleasure and Somehow Got Home in Time To Cook Dinner (Rodale 2011).Can reading turn you on? I mean really, really turn you on! Spike up your sexual desire—and make you want to get grab your partner—or have a little sexual fun with... oh yourself? Oh yes it can, and for those of you that like therapeutic and scientifically proven reasons for this, it's called Bibliotherapy.

Bibliography is using reading to increase sexual desire—and turn up our sexual heat. There are even websites likes "Bring Back Desire" dedicated to supporting women to read erotically as a way to boost, restart or keep their sexual energy going.

Exploring the world of erotica puts sex right in the middle of your brain and inspires fantasy. It's a natural libido booster, and can get you in the perfect mood for sex with your partner or with yourself.

Yes, we can read ourselves sexy! When was the last time you picked up a sexy book?

I don't know about you... but I am heading off to my neighborhood book store. I have a little reading to do! I know—I'm shameless!

About the Author

Pamela Madsen

Pamela Madsen is the author of Shameless and founder of The American Fertility Association.

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