In Sheri Winston's book "Women's Anatomy of Arousal"  she says that women need a lot of "Pussy Praise". I loved that - mostly because I know it to be true. Women have a lot to get over when it comes to their vulvas. After all - most of the messages that they get around their genitals have to do with "cleaning them up" and changing them in some way. There are deodorizing sprays and wipes (the message there is that our vulvas smell bad) - and then there are waxes for our pubic hair - and even plastic surgery to tidy up those inner lips! Oh yes - when it comes to vulvas - there is a lot of shame and disgust with our natural state of being. The road to Shameless self love is not an easy one for a woman with so few positive messages available to us.

When was the last time you heard a vulva being called beautiful? And while there are great artists that have given the vulva praise in art such a Georgia O'Keefe - the vulva does not get's it due compared to the male member when it comes to praise and adoration.

Many women are left feeling very confused and unsure of their vulvas. They are not sure if their vulvas look good, smell good, or are even normal - let alone beautiful. There are often not a lot of guides available to help a woman on her way to self acceptance and the true pleasure that is available in her own body.

So, if you want to help yourself - or a woman in your life feel better about herself and have hotter, more delicious sex - why not engage in a vulva compliment and adoration session?

The next time you get your female lover in bed - why not set some time aside to simply gaze lovingly at the face of her sexuality. Tell her that she is beautiful. Pet her lovingly without going after sex in that moment. Give a gentle kiss - and perhaps even tell your favorite vulva that she smells good. And while you are at it - thank this beautiful vulva for all the pleasure that she gives you.

Ladies - while receiving this praise, adoration and love from your partners is a beautiful and healing thing exercise - and I encourage you to breathe it all in - you do not need a partner to do this for yourself.

Set aside some time - and create your own ritual of self love and adoration. Try starting with a warm bath to relax yourself - and place your hand over your entire venus mound. Then offer yourself some loving pussy affirmations such as "My vulva is beautiful", "I have a gorgeous and amazing pussy", "I love all of the pleasure that my Yoni gives me".  I am am sure that you can come up with a few on your own!

Let's start a new trend among women - and the men who love us. Let's offer praise to this gateway of pleasure and life. You might be amazed what could begin to open when the Mounds of Venus are given love, praise and adoration.

About the Author

Pamela Madsen

Pamela Madsen is the author of Shameless and founder of The American Fertility Association.

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