Chances are that your thoughts have now turned from turkey to shopping - and what you are going to get your sweetie for the holidays...How about spicing up your sex life this year, and putting the possibility of renewed intimacy, playful sexuality, and the big "O" on your holiday shopping list?

Because I am such a helpful Pleasure Advocate - I am going to give you a list of some of my favorite things.  Remember - some gifts don't have to be put under the tree and opened in front of the in-laws - some can be given privately - and kept just between the two of you! And don't under estimate the power of toys, yummy lingerie, and sexy books to help heat things up in the winter. Trust me on this - bring in a little adult fun to the holidays to bring the two of you closer - why do you think that mistletoe is such a lasting tradition? It works! Sometimes we need to get "intentional' about sharing and juicing up our sex lives. Often - great sex doesn't just happen. We need to put a little energy into stirring things up! So - let me inspire you!

Shameless Gifts to Help Put The Big "O" in Your Holidays!

Think Moregasm! Consider giving your beloved (or yourself) The book "Moregasm: Babeland's Guide to Mind-Blowing Sex"  and if you want to go all the way - surprise him or her with The Moregasm Kit!  Oh My! I would love this little bundle of fun in my house. All of the toys featured in the book - are in the kit. Just remember to come up for air!

It's all about touch! How about giving your partner the gift of touch this year? There are few things as delicious as sharing sensuous massage to warm up those winter nights. Wrap up The Joy of Erotic Massage, a beautifully photographed book on the gift of touch, throw in a little Red Hot Touch and don't forget the massage oils! I also wouldn't mind getting this little gift pack -  "It's All About Me Kit" from Good Vibrations! It will truly complete this gift!

If you enjoyed my "Tie Me Up, Please!" blog - you might want to experiment a little bit with power and surrender. Don't be shy - this was on The Today Show - the statistics were given - most of us want to experiment with having some of these experiences.  I know that I did! So - here are some lovely gift ideas to help you get started. If you are experimenting with restraints check out this lovely simple kit from Eden Fantasys called Explore  it's a simple non-threatening kit - with easy restraints and a blind fold.Consider tickling and playing with sensation toys like the Feather Tickler or a fluffy red heart paddle,  I always like to recommend books - there are some fabulous "how to's" such as The New Topping Book and The New Bottoming Book - both by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy. I recommend buying both if you are going to be playing surrender games. After all - there is always a Top and always a Bottom! And learning the rules of the road makes for much better fun.

Also consider reading some sexy books together - and my favorites is anything by Rachel Kramer Bussel. Rachel has many sexy books that are usually collections of sexy stories that follow a theme. So check her out - I am sure that you will find a collection that will be sexy to read with your sweetie - perhaps you can read it them while your beloved is all tied up!

Many of these links bring you to wonderful stores - so don't just take my advice - go and explore! I bet you will bring home many ideas to put the sexy back into the holidays!

Shameless Woman

Pursuing an integrated life of sensuality, health, healing and rejuvenation
Pamela Madsen

Pamela Madsen is the author of Shameless and founder of The American Fertility Association.

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