Human sex and sexuality are incessantly and relentlessly evolving, particularly to meet the changes wrought by technology, cultural shifts, and the vast expansion of our knowledge about sexuality. We may not identify these changes as we go about our day-to-day lives, but if we could somehow travel into the future by a mere twenty years we would by mystified by what we encounter in regards to sex. Let's use an example of the dreaded sex talk between parents and their children to illustrate this point.

In the late 1800s such a dialogue between father and son (if it were to occur at all) might talk about the dangers of masturbation (it was widely believed it held dangerous consequences for one's health), women's innate abhorrence of sex, and the overall tawdriness of the act. Now jump forward one hundred years to the mid-1970s and watch as my own parents struggled to inject into our dialogue a cursory overview of women's rights, birth control, and the pleasure inherent in shared sexual activity.

Of course when I went through this initiation rite with my parents, nobody had yet heard of HIV, the video cassette recorder was only then being introduced (let alone the DVD), the Internet and cable television were non-existent, cells phones and instant messaging were unknown, and the men's movement was nascent. Is there any doubt these changes have seeped into our sexual repertoires? Even more, what changes await us in the next two decades? If we could travel into the future to overhear a typical parental sex talk we would be as befuddled as our Victorian predecessors if they could only listen to our own dialogues today.

Consider just a few of the influences impacting sex and sexuality:
• Technology is allowing sexual satisfaction to be less dependent on the presence of another person.
• Pharmaceutical companies are creating medications that increase arousal, desire, passion, and sexual performance.
• Science is making a perpetually youthful appearance and physical perfection achievable.
• Demographic changes in the United States are leading to increasing arousal to a wider variety of ethnicities and skin colors, and cross-cultural dating is more evident. Furthermore, a myriad of new sexual practices and beliefs are being introduced.
• Sex research is increasing our knowledge about human sex and sexuality.

While this blog will certainly address recurrent sexual concerns by utilizing cutting edge research as well as my own clinical experiences, this is not its sole intended purpose. Now that just about every newspaper in the country has a weekly (if not daily) column that addresses sexual issues in addition to readily available resources on the Internet, whether a man's concern is one of sexual performance, body image, or simply a need for sexual information, he can find related knowledge without too much difficulty. Unfortunately the quality of these resources is often less than stellar and many men do not access them. As such it still remains imperative to explore these common issues.

The primary goal of this blog is to explore how men's sex and sexuality are adapting to the conflux of forces reshaping how we think, talk, and even perform sexual activity. Knowledge, technology, and cultural changes are dramatically altering what we know (and think we know) about male sex and sexuality, and this blog will explore these transformations.

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