In a recent study conducted by Yoga Journal, 34 percent of Americans say they are somewhat or very likely to practice yoga in the next 12 months – equal to more than 80 million Americans. For those who don’t practice yoga, the term practice expresses the value that one never reaches a goal in yoga but the daily or weekly practice allows for the improvement of dexterity, flexibility and clarity of thought. 

When we sit down at our holiday meals we are more aware of gratitude for what life has offered us. What if we took this annual practice and made it a daily practice?  Research has shown that expressing daily gratitude in a journal allows a person to be more optimistic, and happier about their lives. 

What if you took this practice to express gratitude about one’s partner? I see couples who have a long list of complaints, hurts, and frustrations about their partner. While it’s important to resolve disagreements, it’s equally important to keep the glue of a relationship strong through positive engagement and erotic connection. What if you added to this positive reflection practice and added an erotic element?

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For example, one could write: “I love the way my husband makes me breakfast each day” and add, “When my lover strokes the back of my neck, it reminds my body how good he makes me feel in bed." I see many couples who are very close emotionally but have fallen out of the practice of sexual connection.  Our minds are the most valuable asset we have in the erotic realm, so expressing these feelings daily can add up to enhancing one's own erotic energy. 

The next step to enhancing one’s sexual relationship would be to express these erotic gratitude statements to one’s partner. I ask partners all the time whether they think of their lovers in an erotic way during the day and they usually respond, “Yes.” When I ask if they share it with their partners, they blush and say, “Umm, no.” 

I invite you to begin a gratitude journal for yourself and begin sharing these positive statements (both the emotional ones and the erotic ones) with your partner. You’ll be surprised how much closer and erotically open both you and your partner will become. Enjoy your holidays, take the lessons forward to the year to come.  

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