1. Look at the sky and really notice what’s up there.
  2. When a song comes on the radio that you know, sing along.
  3. Love your feet – give yourself a foot bath and foot massage.
  4. Leave enough time to get to places fifteen minutes early and then spend the time just sitting still.
  5. Take a bath. Put on spa music and light some candles and incense and imagine you’re royal.
  6. When you walk through a doorway, straighten your shoulders.
  7. Play with your cat or dog and put a red bandana around his neck.
  8. Wear funny socks.
  9. Look at old photo albums (unless, of course, you had a rotten childhood).
    Vikki Stark
    Source: Vikki Stark
  10. Open your mouth wide and stick out your tongue (not recommended to do on the bus).
  11. Extra hug day! Give an extra hug to family and friends.
  12. Devote some time each day to doing nothing at all other than listening to the sounds around you.
  13. Walk backwards down the hall.
  14. Sit up straight in a chair and slowly swivel your head all the way to right and left. Repeat five times.
  15. Jumping jacks! Jumping jacks always make people feel better.

I’m a psychotherapist, family therapist and the author of The Divorce Talk: How to Tell the Kids – A Parent’s Guide to Breaking the News without Breaking Their Hearts; Runaway Husbands: The Abandoned Wife's Guide to Recovery and Renewal and My Sister, My Self: The Surprising Ways that Being an Older, Middle, Younger or Twin Shaped Your Life. I can be found online at www.vikkistark.com.

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