Re-thinking Gender, Part 1

The Ups, Downs, and Sideways of Gender Politics

On Chivalry...

Is chivalry dead? Should it be? What do you think?

Men: Idiots? Winners? Either, Neither, or Both?

Two recent articles on men inspire reflection.

Stupidity and Homo Sapiens, Part 3

Stupidity is close friends with greed and narcissism, as discussed earlier. Indeed Stephen Hawking affirms: “We are in danger of destroying ourselves by our greed and stupidity.” Stupidity is not simply personal, it is also political, economic and institutional.

Stupidity and Homo Sapiens, Part 2

Stupidity is easy to experience but hard to measure.

Stupidity and Homo Sapiens

Einstein said: “Only two things are infinite, the universe and human stupidity, and I’m not too sure about the former.”

On Beliefs

Our beliefs are weird and wonderful, strange and funny. They may help us to make sense of life and of our own lives in particular, but they can also cause chaos and mayhem in the lives of others – and even our own.

Lamentations of a Postmodernist

Poems for postmodernists

Relationships are Weird

“Relationships are weird,” a friend remarked at a party recently, and we all nodded sadly in agreement. But why are they weird? Presumably because people are so different and have such conflicting points of view on the trinity of R, L and S: Relationships, Love and Sex.

The Elastic Band Theory Of Relationships

The Elastic Band Theory Of Relationships, are they really like elastic bands? Should they be? The argument here is that they may be, but they should not be.

The Suicide Sex

Tyler Clementi’s tragic suicide at Rutgers in 2010 received much publicity and opened up some discussion on the topic (New Yorker Feb 6, 2012). Subsequently, after a rash of suicides by young people, President Obama called a White House Conference on bullying and cyber-bullying in May 2011. So suicide is receiving more attention, but there is much more to be done.

Glory Masculinism 3

Let us now praise men - not just famous men but regular, run of the mill, average Joes.

Sunny, Anal, and Balanced: Puzzling Over Personalities

How do we know how to know ourselves? From our parents and friends? But they are biased. So are our enemies, though they may be less tactful and more truthful. From our therapists? By introspection? Perhaps from personality tests?

How to Cope with a Beautiful Narcissist

It's not about you, dear. Sorry.

The Meaning of Life

Meanings are not given to most of us, though we are socialized into some by our parents or significant others, but still we tend to construct our own eventually. So here are my Top 12. Pick yours, or add it to the list if it is not there, or mix and match.

Manology: The Art and Science

"Men are all the same. They only want one thing!" This was a mantra I heard in my youth. Maybe it is true, but according to Cosmo (April 1999), which I found in my files recently. Maybe it is not, which may be a relief to all of us, or not.

Glory Feminism

A recent issue of Newsweek celebrated International Women's Day with portraits of "150 Women Who Shake the World." Though "save" might be a better word than "shake," for these are inspirational women who do so much good for all of us.

The New Man: Who Knew?

Scientists have created human sperm from embryonic stem cells. Toxic chemical food contamination is feminizing men. Male birth rates are declining. Are men becoming superfluous?

All You Need Is Love Part I

"All you need is love...love is all you need." The Beatles sang this interminably. "What the world needs now, is love, sweet love," sang Burt Bacharach in close harmony. "Love makes the world go round" is proverbial.