Sexual Intercourse and Talking Together: What's the Same?

What could sex and talking together possibly have in common? Lots....

Job Loss: 4 Steps to Speeding Up Your Recovery

Job loss can empty your pockets and your self-confidence as well. Here's strategies to help you recover from this and other emotional wounds.

Infidelity!

Does the threat of an infidelity sound scarey to you? It should. Affairs can wreak havoc with personal happiness and with marital bonds. At the same time, the best antidote to anxiety is information. Here's a batch.

Does Media Violence Beget Real-LIfe Killings?

While guns and insufficient mental health services have been receiving significant attention, research suggests that we need to reconsider the many hours that kids, and grownups as well, spend watching violence in movies, tv shows, on the internet and in video games. And while we're at it, what about the role of domestic violence-- violence against kids, wives and elders?

2 Upgrades For Making Gift-Giving Decisions

While some folks find gift-giving choices easy to make, many people find it stressful to find just the right gift for each person on their lists.

Could Your Son, or a Boy Next Door, Become a Mass Murderer?

6 Signs that indicate that a young person could be heading down a dangerous pathway. Helping that child, teen or young man to find a therapist to talk with could make all the difference between tragedy and a kid who turns out fine.

Anxious? 4 Examples of Anxiety Treatments that Calm Nerves

What therapy options are out there if you are struggling with anxiety? Is the goal to get rid of the anxious feelings, or to address the problems triggering your worries?

Doubles Tennis Champions

Doubles tennis requires perfect partnership and mental skills as well as highest level athletic training. How did two strong individual players become world champions?

Deck the Halls for Chanukah

Sustaining traditions is key to what the Maccabees, the Jewish freedom fighters of 2000 years ago, fought to preserve.

Marriage: the Ultimate Collaborative Venture

Love may find its ultimate expression in the decision of two people to live their lives in permanent collaborative partnership. Why does this decision sometimes lead to misery instead of joyful collaboration?

10 Ways to Feel Closer to Loved Ones

Want to feel more connected with your friends, kids and partner? First, cut out any negatives you do like criticizing or getting irritable. Then check out how much love and laughter, smiles and support you have been offering.

What Makes Conflict? How Are Conflicts Resolved?

Conflicts create bad feelings like irritation, frustration, anger, anxiety and depression. Left to fester, the situation about which people are in conflict are likely to create worse feelings over time. Learn the 3-step pathway from conflict to resolution and your life will feel far easier, happier and more peaceful.

More Info for Adult Children of Borderline Mothers

These comments from readers of my earlier postings on borderline personality disorder have useful suggestions for understanding and coping with family members who rage.

When Your Mother Has a Borderline Personality

Adult children of moms with borderline personality disorders report the lifelong devastating impact of their mothers' intense narcissism and unpredictable raging. What could help kids who have these kinds of moms?

What's Fair? Two Views of Government

Democrats and Republicans tend to see each other's ideas through the prisms of rigid negative beliefs. Could a more flexible and mutually respectful perspective enable us all to get along better?

Are You a Narcissist? 6 Sure Signs of Narcissism

Low on compassion? The absence of compassion may indicate narcissism. Take this quick six-factor quiz to clarify what's going on. Narcissism replaces compassionate listening with dismissing what others say.

The Problem With Over-Emotional Political Rhetoric

Have you been sending or receiving emails with articles relevant to the election? If so, this experience is likely to sound familiar.

Life Transitions: Juggling Past, Present, Future

We each have a past, a present, and a future. What can you do if the past is too much in your present, blocking you from transitioning to a more positive future?

8 Ways to Lose Friends By Talking Politics

Republicans and Democrats have become enemies who malign and misinterpret each other right and left. A political discussion between members of these two enemy camps can lead to the ending of friendships and even marriages. Wake up America! "A house divided cannot stand."

Don't Worry, Be Happy: Good Advice or Bad?

Everyone from time to time gets worried thoughts. What's a way to put these thoughts to good use? And if you are a chronic worrier, what's an alternative path you might take?

Marriage: 8 Dangerously Wrong Conventional Wisdoms

Mistaken advice about marriage can have potent impacts. Beware especially of these relationship-wreckers.

Healthy Relationships Breathe In and Out Like An Accordion

What are the risks and potential solutions to nourishing both time together and time apart? Here's seven guidelines to think about.

Anger is a Stop Sign

Anger chemicals ready you for action when there's something you want that you aren't getting, or when you are getting something you don't want. These chemicals, which come from the animal part of your brain, may seem to tell you "Go!" when you "see red" Don't be color blind. Red means stop. Stop, look, and listen.

Is Embarrassment Really Secret Joy?

The flush of cheeks could look like happiness. Or is it really shame or even humiliation?

8 Reasons to Cheer for Psychotherapy and to Broaden Its Avai

A newly released study by the American Psychological Association has confirmed the many benefits of psychotherapy. It suggests ways in which psychotherapy can be a preferable treatment to prescribing drugs. At the same time, it questions what would be needed to enable more folks in need of help to obtain psychotherapy services.

To Be Happy You May Need to be Stressed

Too little stress is bad for people. As the Sufi mystic my husband and I visited in Pakistan taught us, "Cars run best uphill." At the same time, if the slope is too steep, there may be problems ahead.

10 Things to Say to Generate Good Feelings

Want a long-lasting and loving relationship? Pay attention to how much you radiate good vibes. Taking folks for granted puts relationships under clouds. Like sunshine on flowers, positivity invites blossoms and blooms.

Facing a Big Decision Like About a Job or a Relationship?

Decision-making is especially challenging when the stakes are high. Other than picking a spouse, decisions about job changes and career will impact your life the most strongly. Here's a 3-step pathway to guide you along your way.

Help For Little Girls Who Do Too Much Anger

When children learn that throwing angry fits gets them what they want, why should they change? Likewise for lovers and spouses who find that anger works to control their mate.

Does Gratitude Matter in Marriage?

More thanks, praise and appreciation make for a more gratifying relationship. Here's how and why.

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