What can be done when parents, who are supposed to be nurturing their children, instead treat them destructively with deprecating comments, raging, and by using them as pawns to fight their own battles?
This is the 7th post in a series addressing the question of whether and how all conflicts can be resolved. Sexual differences can be particularly sensitive to discuss. Still, here's examples of how many have been resolved with win-win outcomes.
Many folks who launch a divorce would really prefer to repair their marriage. They feel hopeless though about their spouse's willingness to respond to their concerns. They also have no idea what they could do differently that might make a significant difference.
Families can be fountains of strength. At the same time, all families are fragile. Internal factors like a parent with mental health issues, and also outside factors like job loss or economic stresses, can overwhelm a couple's abilities to cope in good humor. One temporarily fractured couple has written profound advice relevant to all parents.
All people from time to time find themselves in a situation in which they want someone to see it their way. To be maximally persuasive, skip the sweet-talking, forget being insistent, and avoid all debating. Instead...
Guy Winch's new book Emotional First Aid offers the best understandings I've seen of the pernicious impacts of loneliness. He also suggests how to break free of social isolation to begin forming gratifying connections.
Our government leaders' animosities toward each other could be steering us toward national disaster. From a family therapist’s perspective, what they need to change is simple and clear. And it's not about the money.
Life similarly brings choice-points where we feel caught between wants and shoulds or frustrated when a loved one wants one thing and we want another.
Do your choice-points tend to mire you in inner conflict? In tensions and arguments with loved ones? Strong skills for creating win-win solutions sustain personal well-being and harmonious relationships.