7 Strong Steps to Stop a Divorce

Many folks who launch a divorce would really prefer to repair their marriage. They feel hopeless though about their spouse's willingness to respond to their concerns. They also have no idea what they could do differently that might make a significant difference.

Becoming a Grandparent

First, folks who love children aim to be great parents. As seniors, they get the chance to aim also for being great grandparents. What's often their biggest challenge?

What Can a Newborn Infant Teach Us About Joy?

A one-day-old newborn can teach a major lesson about happiness.

When Is the Best Time to Have Children?

When is an ideal time to have children? And what are the consequences for your future life of that decision?

Grandparents and Grandkids: The Perils of Long Distance Love

Grandchildren are the privilege and delight of increasingly fewer seniors. Those who do have grandkids too often live at too far a distance to reach out and hug them.

Are You Building Up Sleep Debt?

Any chance that you need more sleep?

Bullying Is MoreThan Just a Kids' Problem

Bullying happens to adults as well as to kids. And whether it happens when you are young or old, bullying can trigger long-term physical health consequences.

Between Parent and Child: An All-Time Parenting Best-Seller

Haim Ginott's parenting book revolutionized our ideas of how to talk with children.

Individual Therapy for Married People: A Huge Mistake

If not criminal, is it at least a very mistaken, albeit common, practice to treat individuals without assessing the family context of the therapy client's life?

Mending a Broken Family; Strengthening a Healthy Family

Families can be fountains of strength. At the same time, all families are fragile. Internal factors like a parent with mental health issues, and also outside factors like job loss or economic stresses, can overwhelm a couple's abilities to cope in good humor. One temporarily fractured couple has written profound advice relevant to all parents.

Want to Be More Persuasive? Use The Right Body Part First!

All people from time to time find themselves in a situation in which they want someone to see it their way. To be maximally persuasive, skip the sweet-talking, forget being insistent, and avoid all debating. Instead...

Loneliness: a Temporary State or a Vulnerable Way of Life?

Guy Winch's new book Emotional First Aid offers the best understandings I've seen of the pernicious impacts of loneliness. He also suggests how to break free of social isolation to begin forming gratifying connections.

A Marriage Therapist's View Of Our Dysfunctional Government

Our government leaders' animosities toward each other could be steering us toward national disaster. From a family therapist’s perspective, what they need to change is simple and clear. And it's not about the money.

A Big Family: Does Number of Sibs Impact Divorce Risk?

A recent study suggests an interesting relationship between the size of the family a child grows up within and the likelihood that in adulthood that child will end up divorced.

Fighting About Money? Beware!

When couples fight about money, they are moving forward on a high risk road. Danger ahead.

Options for the Unhappily Married

Country music group Pistol Annies poignantly sings about how marriage can become a trap. At the same time, the words suggest ways to open the trap and find routes to happiness,

Marriage Arguments: Can All Conflicts Be Resolved?

Marriage involves living life in partnership, which inevitably creates conflicts. Can all these conflicts be resolved? Two leading marriage psychologists, Gottman and Heitler, attempt to resolve their opposing views on this issue.

What's All This Talk About Couple “Communication Skills?”

Before you think of committing to marriage, be sure that you and your potential partner have the communication skills to build a marriage that will be forever loving and lasting.

I Know I Need Therapy Help, but Is My Therapy Working?

Not all therapy proves to be helpful. How can you assess if the particular therapist and treatment you are involved with are likely to succeed in helping you to solve your problems? Here are two perspectives and a set of nine guiding questions.

Beware Of Mistaken Marriage Advice That "All Couples Fight"

Beware of marriage advice that suggests that all couples fight. They don't. Successful couples also don't sweep their differences under the rug. Here's their alternative to both fighting and to pretending that problems don't exist.

"Just Listen To Me!"... Is This a Mistaken Request?

This advice may be common but it's still bad advice. Here's what folks really want when they try to talk over a problem with a friend, spouse or even a therapist.

Resilience: Why It's Vital and How To Enhance It

Resilience is the ability to spring back after an unfortunate situation has triggered negative emotions. Tennis players recover within 25 seconds. Tennis players are just humans. If they do resilience so quickly, you can learn to do it too.

Wisdom About Life From a US Prison Guard

Felicia, who sat next to me on a recent airplane flight, is a powerful tall, strongly built Black woman who has worked for eleven years as a guard in the US federal prison system. I liked Felicia immediately, and learned a lot about jail and life from talking with her.

Stress in Relationships: 10 Sources and Their Antidotes

Stressful circumstances inevitably, from time to time, land on every couple's doorstep. It's what happens next that make stress either shrink or grow.

Want Marriage Problems? Expect Your Spouse to Be Perfect

Odds are that if you have a tendency to criticize your spouse, you mistakenly have been expecting perfection. Big mistake.

How to Express Feelings... and How Not to

Expressing feelings enables us to think through and move on from troubling negative emotions. It also brings us closer to those with whom we share these feelings. On the other hand, mistakes in how we express these feelings (like saying "You make me feel...") bring on the opposite effect. This particular phrase pushes people away and makes matters worse.

How to Love: A 5-Part Action Plan

To fall in love is a passive act. To sustain love takes actions.

Mother's Day Dread

I dread Mothers Day because I deeply miss my Mom. That's her with me in this picture. If your mom has a borderline personality disorder, however, there's other reasons why Mothers' Day may be no fun.

Got an Anger Disorder? Not According to the DSM

There's diagnostic categories in the DSM for anxiety disorders, and also for depression. Why not for anger? What a peculiar blind spot!

Are You Falling Out of Love? A Quiz on 10 Warning Signs

Falling out of love has become the number one cause listed for divorce, at least according to a study in England. It's trumping even affairs and abuse in terms of frequency. The good news is that falling out of love is something you can prevent. How?