The Upcoming Genderal Election for President

Is it time for a woman president? Absolutely. In fact, it’s past time – and that’s a possible problem for Hillary Clinton.

It's Killing Us: Why Neglecting Boys Hurts Girls Too

It is my strong belief that a major reason we have not given youth suicides and ODs the attention they deserve is because they are more of a male problem than a female one.

Read This Now: A Fun Look at Procrastination

Why not take a lighthearted look at procrastination: why we do it and how to deal with it? There are probably some helpful hints in here, but it's all said in fun.

Boy Is Beautiful

Boys are likely to get the message – from school among other places – that there is something inherently wrong with them if they act like most boys have always acted.

Staying Together

It would help couples very much in making decisions if each person honestly said what they wanted.

Eschew This!

I have always had trouble understanding academic writing, but for years I thought it was just me.

A Man's World but Not a Boy's

What do I tell my sons? That they should encourage their sons to support the aspirations of girls, girls who are already surpassing them in school at all levels, and going on to graduate schools in larger numbers?

Let's Not Take It Out on the Children

When the modern women’s movement began to turn its attention to girls – as in books like Failing at Fairness: How America’s Schools Cheat Girls (published in 1994) – they were already doing better than boys on many measures of educational achievement, including college enrollment. Feminism should now, among its other campaigns, fight to make classrooms more boy-friendly.

Are You a Man or a Mouse?

“Are you a man or a mouse?” This exhortation has been a way that men have encouraged other men, especially younger ones, to be brave, not to run away but rather to take things up to the next level. However, considering what has happened to men these days, I think the expression can be considered in a whole new way. Especially because mice are really pretty brave.

They Probably Don't Want to Hear It

Don’t people get it? There are others who really do want to hear constantly about how your grandson, at the age of five, is a nationally ranked golfer, but I don’t. Actually, there are only three to five people who do: They are your spouse, your unbelievably wonderful grandchild’s parents, and the other grandparents. And that is it!

Ladies and Gentlemen

While these days I don’t think we’re hearing “lady” (and “ladies”) as much as “gentleman” (and “gentlemen”), when we do hear “lady,” it still carries an aura of goodness. But this association with goodness seems to be much more the case for lady than for gentleman. “Gentleman” is still widely used simply as a synonym for “man," sometimes even the perpetrator of a crime.

Women and Girls May Be Rising, but Boys Are Not

I have no daughters and no granddaughters. I do, however, have three sons and four grandsons. And Dr. Barash could not love his daughters any more than I love my sons and grandsons. The difference is that the greater society, the progressive society, loves his children too, whereas it pays little attention to mine or to my grandchildren.

Finding Something to Like

There is an art to what you say to people when you are evaluating their work and the work leaves much to be desired. My view is that you don’t want to be dishonest, but at the same time you don’t want to crush a person’s spirit.

A Tipping Point: We've Finally Noticed Boys' Struggles

For several years now a bipartisan group, which includes experts in the area of boys’ issues and fatherhood—and many of these are women, some of whom strongly identify as feminists—has been pushing for a White House Council on Boys and Men which would parallel the one that President Obama established for women and girls shortly after he took office in 2009.

Avoiding Phone Rage

Here are a few of Dr. Mark’s (look, if Dr. Phil can do it, why can’t I?) suggestions for a better phone life with the total strangers you may have occasion to talk to. The first is about unsolicited phone calls. And the next two are about speaking to people at customer service and the like.

Missing That 'Vast Wasteland'

The real problem is that when people tell you about a series they've been watching or have watched, they never just say it's "pretty good" or "worth watching." They say it's "great!" or "incredible!" and that you just HAVE to watch it. Back in the old days, I don't remember anyone saying, "You just HAVE to watch 'Lassie'!"

Happiness and Modern Times

It’s hard to measure happiness, but given its correlates and how we live today, I don’t think we are happier than we were before screens largely replaced real life voices and faces.

Here's Hoping Chelsea Clinton Has a Boy Soon

Many women I know with sons and/or grandsons, including those who identify strongly with feminism, seem much more likely to care about what happens to American males than those without such a deep and loving connection.

Hail, Hail Rock and Roll

The generic term “rock star” didn’t come out of nowhere. It is the ultimate, at least for guys. We might hear someone referred to as a rock star in the legal world, but do we ever hear of a great rock musician referred to as a “top lawyer in rock!”?

They're Everywhere

What is it that characterizes an a-hole? I think more than anything else it is an insensitivity to the feelings of other people; it’s a kind of forgetting that we live in a world where we coexist with others and that what we do and say affects them.


Today, of course, the term is “hyperactive” or, more completely, ADHD (“attention deficit hyperactivity disorder”), and it is more frequently applied to children – boys, in particular – than it is to adults. Had I grown up in the 1990s or ’00s rather than in the ’40s and ’50s, I probably would have been put on some kind of medication.

Will We Ever Care About Boys?

In the developed world, girls and young women are far surpassing boys and young men in school. Actually, this gap was obvious in 1999; but almost no one was listening then. Sadly, few people are listening even now — nearly 15 years later — when the data is overwhelming.

Why We Don't Give Each Other a Break

Interestingly, social psychologists have found that we make the fundamental attribution error (or FAE, as I have never heard it called) about other people and rarely ourselves. When we do things, we always have a good reason. It’s other people we see as defective.

Transhumanism and Gray Goo

Transhumanism is the strongly held hypothesis that evolution need not stop with human beings as we are currently constructed, but that, with the use of nanotechnology, life forms -- combined with technological enhancements -- are possible that go beyond human.

Life After Parents: The LAP Years

You know all this great talk about how everyone is living so much longer, how the 80s are the new 30s, and all that stuff? Well, this is all well and good, but there’s a group that is suffering as they deal with this, and that group is the children of these aging pre-baby-boomers who have the nerve to live into their 90s and the triple digits.

A Very Important Lesson Women’s Studies Should Be Teaching

"Hmmm," the speaker said. "...Actually that's a good point. I never thought about it that way. I guess sexual objectification can go both ways, even if it is usually women who are objectified. Thanks."

Big Fish in Small Pond Meets Much Bigger Fish from Ocean

I walked into my friend’s living room, in which there sat four other professors and a short, immediately identifiable man, who stood up, put out his hand, and said, “Paul Simon.” It seemed odd for him to say this, for of course he was Paul Simon. But what else could he say?

A Fun Look at Envy

Envy has always been a problem for me. As such, it joins my other problems, such as worry, OCD, procrastination, and my concern over eating foods with too much sugar and salt rather than sticking to shredded wheat and carrots.

Keep Fighting the Good Fight; Justice Will Come

There is so much wrong in our world, and our country, but we are headed in the right direction in at least one essential area.

As Others See Us

How do I know how others see me? I don't, of course, but every once in a while I'll get a glimpse. It doesn't swell my ego; it simply helps me feel better about myself.