Changing the Way We Talk to Teens About Tragic Events

Conversations about tragic events are challenging. How parents respond impacts teens' future resilience.

The Blessings and Challenges of Having “A Protector’s Brain”

We must move young people beyond blaming themselves for having "an anger problem." Shifting their identity towards having "a protector's brain" is a start.
Ken Ginsburg

I Do Not Have an “Empty Nest,” My Children Are “In Flight”

Are you in mourning because your child is growing up? Are you wondering what life looks like after your teen leaves home? Let's celebrate both independence and interdependence.
Ken Ginsburg

The Upside of Adolescence

Teens are searching for clues on how they should behave to be "normal," and the worst thing we can do is poison their environment with low expectations.

Adolescence: Designed for Failure, Recovery, and Growth

If adolescence is not a time that offers rooms for colossal failures, when will young people learn how to navigate adversity? When will they gain the self-awareness of their limitations, and the workarounds to their challenges? How will they learn when to reach for help? How will they know how far they can push the boundaries to unleash their creativity? When will they

Don’t Just Tell Kids What Not to Do: Show Them What to Do

Resilience requires a wide repertoire of skills to cope with stress. Here’s the bottom line—life is stressful, so we need to prepare our children to handle challenges effectively.

Listening: A Key to Successfully Guiding Adolescents

Who's the expert in your adolescent's life? It's not me or any other person claiming to have expertise in parenting or adolescent development. You know a lot more about your child than any of us do. But you know who knows more about your teen's inner life and environment than you do? He does.

Letting Go: The Greatest Challenge of Parenting Teens

Our challenge as parents is to understand that while holding on tight feels so good, letting go is a profound expression of love.

The Greatest Gift You Can Give Your Child

When you became a parent, you began living for someone else. Your drive to protect your child began to override your desire to meet your own needs. But if your goal is to build a resilient child, you must care for yourself with the same intensity with which you protect your child. Caring for yourself is not selfish—it is a selfless and strategic act of good parenting.

Giving Unconditional Love Even When It's Not Easy

Children (And Teens!) need parents who can give them unconditional love and unwavering support. If there is ever anything that gets in the way of your being able to do this, don’t hide in shame. Instead, take the steps to fall back in love with the child you've never stopped adoring.