3 Risks You Should Be Ready to Take to Fall in Love

Love feels magical and biological—something that just happens to us, something beyond our control. Research shows, however, that love is better thought of as behavioral—or even transactional.

Don’t Fool Yourself: Use Technology Intentionally

Social media can stress us out—or help us feel love and connection. The key is to understand their impact and use them strategically.

Want Success and Happiness? Be Divergent, Not Perfect

We will not find our groove by conforming to unrealistic ideals or outdated stereotypes. To find our groove, we must allow ourselves to be complex and divergent -- our authentic, balanced selves.

Five Foolproof Ways to Feel More Joy in 2015

These first few weeks in January are a precious time for getting ourselves on a path toward more joy in the year ahead. But that can be a surprisingly tricky task--too often, we pursue happiness in ways that don’t actually bring us greater joy, fulfillment, or satisfaction. So how do we set out on the right path?

The 3 Most Important Things for Keeping Resolutions

More than half of people who make New Year’s resolutions give up on them by June. Don’t join this failing 50% in 2015! Instead, follow these three research-based strategies for making resolutions that stick.

3 Simple Ways to Deal with a Difficult Person

We are all just looking for love and approval. This holiday season, the greatest gift we can give a difficult person—and ourselves—is to accept them fully, with love.

Why Happiness Is the Wrong Pursuit

On some abstract level, we know that money and other outward signs of success won’t ultimately make us happy—perhaps because we know wealthy or famous or powerful people who are deeply unhappy—but on another level, we don’t really believe it... or at least we don’t believe it applies to us.

How to Practice Extreme Gratitude

Ahh, the holidays. For many of us regular gratitude-practicers, this extra grateful time of year can seem like a bit more of the same. Sometimes our gratitude practices can become a bit routine, not quite as juicy as it was when we first started. Research suggests that when a practice starts to become too rote, its benefits start to wear off.

Feel Starved for Time? Here’s a Surprising–and Easy–Solution

We have gotten really, really bad at just doing nothing. We can’t even stand to wait in an elevator for 10 seconds without checking our smartphones.

A New Theory of Elite Performance

As the kids head back to school, I'm thinking about what really leads to success--as well as happiness. Part one in a three-part series.

Failure Makes You a Winner

What quality does the Buddha share with Luke Skywalker and Joan of Arc? What links Harriet Tubman with Harry Potter? It has nothing to do with enlightenment or magic. It has to do with struggle. These heroes share a key quality: GRIT.

Why I Send My Kids to Camp

Sending your kids off to camp may incite anxiety in them and you. Today's post discusses why a little discomfort will ultimately lead to growth and happiness.

Three Quick Tips for Saving the Earth

According to one of UC Berkeley's cutting edge ocean researchers climate change is happening too slowly for people to care enough to change. I offer three tips to encourage your own earth-saving change.

Influencing Teens and Tweeners, Part 2

Five more ways to get through to your adolescent.

How to Influence Your Teen, Part 1

Ten ways to decrease their resistance to your wise advice.

Three Surprising Truths about Teens

A scientific expert on adolescence answers our burning questions.

The Kids Are Not All Right

Do you think you worry too much about your children? How much is enough?

How to Get Your Household to Run Itself

An old standby that really works

Happiness is…the Weekend?

How to make weekends joyful.

Get Greater Happiness in Just 5 Minutes a Day

How to teach kids loving-kindness meditation

Turning the Morning Blitz into School-day Bliss

Five steps for peace before school

3 Essential School Supplies—That Aren’t on Your List

There are a few back-to-school “supplies” our kids need that are not usually on the lists schools send home. They need tools to build social intelligence.

Eight Steps to Change Your Life

There is so much to love about summer, but let’s be real: The lack of routine can be a little hellish. With summer upon us, the importance of habit and routine is even more prescient.

Mirror Mirror on the Wall: Who’s the Best Mom of Them All?

Last year, Tiger Mothers were superior. This year, French mommy-hood has been deemed a cut above. Are other mothers generally better than us at producing high-functioning and high-achieving kids?

5 Tips for Boosting Your Willpower

Who among us has not made a plan to get up in the morning and exercise, but then hit snooze one time too many, sleeping through our morning jog?

Habits Are Everything

Watch a video of any elite athlete or performer before a big game or show, and you will likely see one thing: their pre-performance habits, the things that they do every single time in exactly the same way. This is because habits are everything. Not just for game-day, and not just for elite performers

The Stuck-at-Home Generation

As a child and young adult, I was given lots of opportunities to develop independence. I went to a boarding school at age 14 that taught self-reliance by regularly sending me into the wilderness with only a scantily-filled backpack (no tents or fleece in those days).