I wrote a list of tips, (below) for how one might disinherit their daughter without feeling guilt. I did this as a way to expose the age-old misogyny that continues to show up, every day, in every area of our lives.
Like racism, ethnocentrism, homophobia, transphobia, and every other insidious form of hatred and fear, misogyny does not only reveal itself in overt acts of discrimination and violence but more often it lingers subtly in our justice system, politics, religions, entertainment, media, workplaces, and day-to-day social exchanges. My intention here is to not only spotlight how we continue to harm women—and anyone considered to be “less than”—but also to deconstruct the various ways we seek to justify the actions we take against them.
As psychological studies have proven, many of our pervasive biases are socially conditioned. But, as this study shows, if our subliminal prejudices are made conscious, we often attempt to correct them. And that is my hope for you as you glance over the list below.
Notice which of the “tips” that you consider to be ludicrous; which of them resemble thoughts you’ve had yourself; and which you recognize in the thoughts of your friends, colleagues, and communities.
Hopefully by exposing our own subliminal forms of hatred and disdain for other people —especially those who lack social power and privilege—we can work to reclaim our daughters, sisters, mothers, sons, and everyone else we disinherit when our biases go unchecked.
So, how does one go about disinheriting their daughter without guilt, you ask?
Copyright, Mark O'Connell, LCSW-R
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