There was an excellent article in the New York Times recently about teaching men to be emotionally honest. It triggered a discussion on a listserv of marriage counselors I belong to. Like most things therapy related, the listserv is predominately female, and I thought it important to try to articulate a man’s perspective on working with men. I want to share here some things I wrote there, lessons I have learned in my work with men both in individual and couple's work:
A man disconnected from his inner world is usually not a pretty sight or very easy to live with. Nothing gives me greater satisfaction than showing a man (a) that there is such a thing as an inner world, and (b) that their inner world contains far greater richness than anything they can find in the outer world.