Our fear of standing out from the norm is often our fear of the envy of the collective. "What will the neighbors think?" is often another way of saying "I don't want to stand out because I'm afraid I'll be struck down by someone else's envy."
How can envy -- an emotion most of us are ashamed to admit -- help us better understand how we need to grow? It can if we learn to be compassionate to ourselves when we feel it and let ourselves examine our envy from a place of curiosity and not judgment. Envy isn't a sign that there's something wrong with us: it's a signal something is right that we aren't claiming.