Attempting to discourage inappropriate behavior? Spanking is detrimental and ineffective. The reason is that you are conditioning your child to pair morality with violence. And
Certain types of beliefs promote or hinder access to solution-focused thinking, and a commitment to a non-aggression principle is a belief that promotes greater access to peaceful and effective solutions during conflicts.
Parenting can be an inconvenience that every parent has to come to terms with. The parenting relationship is not one that money alone can solve, or one that can be tackled remotely.
For a child, the natural rules of the universe and the rules set by his parents present with consequences for any decisions he makes. This is because children need their parents to survive. As a result, parents are the environment that children adapt to.
Spanking is violence, and violence induces trauma. When people experience trauma, especially children, it negatively affects their intellectual abilities. There have been numerous studies that have provided supporting evidence on how trauma deteriorates a person's intellectual abilities.
Beatings don't work. I remember noticing that there were a group of kids who seemed to get flogged every week, yet they still were into making trouble.
The researchers of the longitudinal study claim that parents who yell at their children as a form of discipline, risk causing psychological damage to their children. Furthermore, they also claim that the psychological detriments that result from yelling, such as being hyper aggressive or too timid, is similar to the detriments that result from parents hitting their child.
We should teach our children to see authority as a necessary entity and resource, societies use to establish organization and structure in their cultures, and not as the all seeing and all knowing. Adherence to the latter leads to ineptitude in applying basic problem solving skills in everyday social conflicts.
It's not uncommon for parents of defiant teens to drop their teens off for a scheduled appointment with a therapist and expect that their parenting styles wouldn't be evaluated. In a family unit where the teen presents with an issue, it's the entire family dynamic that needs to be addressed in addition to the teen with the presenting issues.
Often times when I am hired to mediate during a child custody dispute alongside lawyers, I meet with parents who will do their best to convince everyone that they are saints while the other parent is the spawn of satan.
"My intent is not to make the boys out to be villains, but to draw awareness to the cultural mindset they were raised in. A cultural mindset of merciless hyper competition, which leaves no room for compassion or empathy."
"Assertiveness and compassion is a tough combination to master if you believe that others are supposed to be nice to you, the combination is even next to impossible to master if you further believe that those who are not nice to you should get in trouble. The mentality to master is one of humility."
Given that sex is a pleasurable activity, it also stands to reason that teens who struggle with depression will routinely seek to engage in pleasurable and excitable behaviors to provide temporary relief from their experiences with chronic sadness, hopelessness and perhaps lethargy.
Two truths in relation to gun violence: first, we cannot force people to respect the rights of others they dislike simply by making it difficult for them to obtain weapons. Secondly, we cannot use weapons to maintain any level of peace.
Our biological desire as social creatures is to belong to groups. When we become upset with insults it is because insults trigger our innate fear (rational or otherwise) of being cast out.
October is national bullying prevention month, and I hope this post will convince some people that the current popular approach to dealing with bullying in schools is another form of bullying.
The prefrontal cortex is last to develop because it allows the average person to focus on self mastery before becoming fully conscientious about the welfare of their respective communities.
A recent study of a thousand people in New Zealand conducted over a period of twenty years claims that when people use marijuana for a period of time prior to their eighteenth birthday, they experience a permanent and significant drop in their IQ.
"The standards of living are the same for us all, for richer or poorer. In order for each and everyone of us to successfully tackle life’s challenges, we all have to come from a place of genuine unconditional self acceptance and love."
If in three years we expect this 15-year-old to be mature enough to go of to college or get a job and reside on her own, what sense does beating her make?
I see parents during family therapy blush about the idea of talking to their sons and daughters about sex, even though their child is just a click away from a porn site on the smart phone, or tablet the parent purchased.
