When Your Child Snarls at You, Could You Just Offer Love?

No, you’re not teaching your child that she can get away with being rude. You’re teaching her that you’re a safe haven and she never needs or wants to lash out at you like that.

An Experiment: Your Child, Thriving, in 30 Days.

When you see what's getting in the way for your child, you can give her the support she needs to feel, and act, better.

It Only Takes Ten Minutes to Stop Your Child's Whining

if you don't take this time to address the root of the whining, your child will almost certainly still be whining in ten minutes.

3 Simple Ways You and Your Child Can Be Happier

Nothing has to be different for you to love yourself, wholly and completely, exactly as you are. Nothing is stopping you from being happier, starting today.

What if Your Child Crosses the Line?

How to teach your children so they learn that they are loved unconditionally.

When Love and Attention Just Aren't Enough

You'll be amazed at how affectionate and cooperative your little guy is after you "hear and see" his feelings.

Everybody's Got a Hungry Heart

But any age sibling can be a threat. Think about it. Your child has to share the sometimes scare resource of your time and attention. A sibling means he gets less.

Do Sticker Charts Work for Crimes of Passion?

The problem is that those mad, sad feelings have to go someplace, and the sticker is not going to be enough motivation for a child who is not even three yet.

When You Pee on Your Brother, You've Gone Too Far

I don't think a sticker chart—or a spanking—will work. Why? They don't get to the root of the problem. The root of the problem is that Mom got a replacement for him.

5 Ways to Reconnect With Your Child When Having a Bad Day

Kids often need physical "refueling" to feel connected, so the easiest way to reconnect is often to grab a book and snuggle on the couch reading to them for a few minutes.

Feeling Irritable? 5 Steps to Shift Into a Better Place

What if your child is being really difficult, maybe even impossible? You can't change your child directly, but you CAN change your own reaction.

8 Things You Can Do When Your Child Is Belligerent

Kids learn much more from what we do than from what we say. If your default tone is respectful, that will be your child's default tone as well.

Choose Love

When we refuse to visit our own pain on our child, we aren't only choosing love for our child. We're also choosing love for ourselves. We're breaking the cycle. We're healing.

What if You Set a Limit and Your Child Ignores It?

Don't try to give instructions or requests from across the room. Move in close. Touch her arm, make a comment on what she's doing to connect with her, then set your limit.

Using Gratitude to Change Your Happiness Set Point

Gratitude doesn't mean you don't take action to change things that aren't working. But you'll do that better from the feeling of goodness that gratitude gives us.

Your Magic Wand for Less Drama, More Love

What if you could create that deep loving connection as your (almost) constant way of being with your child? It would be like giving yourself a magic wand.

Win-Win Parenting When It All Falls Apart

It starts by extending compassion to ourselves, which we can do when we Stop, Drop and Breathe. Just stop. Drop your agenda. Take a deep breath.

10 Tips for Peaceful Teaching

Children see themselves reflected in our eyes, and they assume we're right about who they are. Most adults have a story about a teacher who made a big difference in our lives.

How to Give Your Child a Rich Life

Nobody wants to raise a child who thinks the world owes him, who feels like he’s entitled to take whatever he wants.

Handling Defiance: You're Not the Boss of Me!

Because a defiant child is rejecting the parent as leader, at least at this moment, defiance also indicates that the child feels disconnected from the parent.

7 Questions to Help You Decode Your Child's SOS and Respond

As you set the limit—calmly and kindly—remind yourself that there’s a reason for your child’s behavior. It may not be what you consider a good reason, but it’s her reason.

As Simple as Breathing

The easiest way to remind yourself to let go of tension is to breathe. Noticing our breathing brings us back into our body, back into the present moment, back into balance.

10 Stress-Busting Strategies for Parents

As every parent learns, you can't be a good mom or dad when you're stressed out, no matter how positive your intentions.

The Secret of the Full Cup: Self Care

It IS possible to reduce the stress in our lives so we can slow down and find more joy in parenting on a daily basis.

How You and Your Child Can Be Happier in 3 Minutes

Your child doesn't have to be perfect to deserve your appreciation. The more you appreciate steps in the right direction, the more motivated your child will be to get there.

When You and Your Child Are Stuck in a Bad Pattern

But children (and adults!) naturally rebel against force, so you can't actually control anyone except yourself. That's why change needs to start with us.

How to Have a Fantastic Evening With Your Child

If you think your child gets plenty of attention and she's still acting out, consider that maybe what she needs is a different kind of attention: help with her emotions.

How to Handle Your Anger at Your Child

We all enter the parenting relationship wounded in some way from our childhoods, and our kids surface all those wounds.

How to Avoid Shaming Your Child

If these interactions are repeated throughout childhood, the shame can become toxic; the beginning of a fear of being defective that can shadow us through life.

How Children Develop Toxic Shame

If we aren't aware of our own tendencies to shame, we won't notice when they get triggered. We'll just act them out onto our children, passing shame down to the next generation.

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