Win-Win Parenting When It All Falls Apart

It starts by extending compassion to ourselves, which we can do when we Stop, Drop and Breathe. Just stop. Drop your agenda. Take a deep breath.

10 Tips for Peaceful Teaching

Children see themselves reflected in our eyes, and they assume we're right about who they are. Most adults have a story about a teacher who made a big difference in our lives.

How to Give Your Child a Rich Life

Nobody wants to raise a child who thinks the world owes him, who feels like he’s entitled to take whatever he wants.

Handling Defiance: You're Not the Boss of Me!

Because a defiant child is rejecting the parent as leader, at least at this moment, defiance also indicates that the child feels disconnected from the parent.

7 Questions to Help You Decode Your Child's SOS and Respond

As you set the limit—calmly and kindly—remind yourself that there’s a reason for your child’s behavior. It may not be what you consider a good reason, but it’s her reason.

As Simple as Breathing

The easiest way to remind yourself to let go of tension is to breathe. Noticing our breathing brings us back into our body, back into the present moment, back into balance.

10 Stress-Busting Strategies for Parents

As every parent learns, you can't be a good mom or dad when you're stressed out, no matter how positive your intentions.

The Secret of the Full Cup: Self Care

It IS possible to reduce the stress in our lives so we can slow down and find more joy in parenting on a daily basis.

How You and Your Child Can Be Happier in 3 Minutes

Your child doesn't have to be perfect to deserve your appreciation. The more you appreciate steps in the right direction, the more motivated your child will be to get there.

When You and Your Child Are Stuck in a Bad Pattern

But children (and adults!) naturally rebel against force, so you can't actually control anyone except yourself. That's why change needs to start with us.

How to Have a Fantastic Evening With Your Child

If you think your child gets plenty of attention and she's still acting out, consider that maybe what she needs is a different kind of attention: help with her emotions.

How to Handle Your Anger at Your Child

We all enter the parenting relationship wounded in some way from our childhoods, and our kids surface all those wounds.

How to Avoid Shaming Your Child

If these interactions are repeated throughout childhood, the shame can become toxic; the beginning of a fear of being defective that can shadow us through life.

How Children Develop Toxic Shame

If we aren't aware of our own tendencies to shame, we won't notice when they get triggered. We'll just act them out onto our children, passing shame down to the next generation.

3 Tools to Dissolve Sibling Jealousy

Since all "misbehavior" is driven by upset feelings or unmet needs, the real work here is helping the child resolve feelings that are triggering his aggression.

Setting Limits When Your Child Ignores You

Your child is ignoring your limit because he needs help with the big feelings or unmet needs that are driving his behavior.

My Name Is Laura and I'm a (Recovering) Perfectionist

Many of us go through our entire lives feeling inferior because we never felt quite "good enough" as children.

What Did You Learn Before You Were Eight?

If you're like most of us, you learned some things before you were eight that no child should learn and carry for the rest of his or her life as motivating beliefs.

What Part of No Doesn't Your Child Understand?

So why do kids fight so hard against our limits? Because those big feelings of disappointment are hard to face. They'd rather keep fighting with us than face the music.

Why Kids Blame and Lash Out—and How to Help Them

Our blaming others when we’re upset isn’t so different from our child blaming her brother when she’s upset. Hopefully, we’re able to bite our tongue so we don’t go on the attack.

Your 12-Step Program to Become a Recovering Perfectionist

Guess what? You aren't perfect. You never will be. But don't worry, the goal is not perfection. The goal is expanding your heart and creating more love in the world.

10 Ways to Love the One You're With

The kids who thrive are the ones who FEEL loved, accepted and cherished for exactly who they are.

How Can You Stay Cool When Your Kid Acts Up?

In the heat of the moment, we're in fight, flight or freeze. And when we're in "fight", our child looks like the enemy.

It's a Good Thing You're Not Perfect!

Your child knows he's not perfect, so your imperfection gives him hope that he might actually be okay, just the way he is.

12 Tips to Transition to Peaceful Parenting

Acting out is not a personal challenge to you. When your child "acts out" she is acting out feelings that she can't express in words.

5 Things We Know for Sure About Raising Great Kids

Research has been following children from babyhood to adulthood for decades, so we actually know what works to raise great kids. Here are the five most important things.

Angry? Don't Lose It. Use It!

What to do when when your child's behavior sends you into your own temper tantrum.

When Your Child's Anger Triggers You

When tempers are fraying at your house, who has the power to calm the storm? You. But you can't do that if you're in a state of emergency. Unfortunately, many of us forget that parenting is rarely an emergency. When our child gets defiant, we feel an urgent need to take action. So we rush in, sirens blaring, and instead of a minor squall, we create a tsunami.

Why Kids Sometimes Hit After They Feel Close

After some nice snuggling or giggling, your child may begin to cry or even lash out. That doesn’t mean you’ve done anything wrong. It means your child wants to accept the love you’re offering, and needs your help to let go of those upset feelings that are in his way, before he can connect with you.

14 Tips for Parenting in Public

Kids don't always behave as we'd like when we're out and about. And when children are at family gatherings, they're often off their schedules and especially excited, so their behavior can be particularly challenging. Here's how to help your child become the kind of person who understands what behavior is appropriate, and who wants to behave that way!

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