You Don't Have to Make Up for Not Being a Perfect Parent

Our fantasy of the perfect family holiday can drive us to do more, more, more – but more of what we didn't need to begin with can't fill those deep longings. There's a better way.

The Best Gift You Can Give Your Child

When your emotions are "triggered," your child looks like the enemy. You can't be the parent your child deserves at those times.

When You Just Don't Have Time for The Meltdown

When kids feel understood, they're more likely to do what we ask, even if they don't see any benefit for themselves. So EMPATHY is your magic wand.
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10 Tips to Manage Strong Emotions

When we stuff our feelings down rather than acknowledging them, we carry them around like a boiling pot. We make ourselves sick and tired.

What to Do When Your Kid Talks Back

When kids express irritability towards us, often called "back talk," they're trying to tell us something and if we don't listen, they just escalate.

Emotion-Coaching When Your Child is Upset

Most of the time, when kids (and adults) feel their emotions are understood and accepted, the feelings lose their charge and begin to dissipate.

Life Out of Balance? Put Yourself Back on the List

The only way to keep your cup full in the constant vortex of parenting is to tend to yourself even while you tend to your child.

"Just Tell Me What to Say!"

The truth is, what you say is not nearly as important as your attitude. Your child feels your warmth and love even when you don't say a word.

Aggression from Other Kids

We all need to learn to stay grounded in our own dignity and compassion as we cope with the unhappy people who will inevitably come our way.

Do You Want to Raise an Obedient Child?

That doesn't mean you don't set limits. And sometimes children do have to do what adults say. But children also need to learn they have a right to say no sometimes.

Being Hard on Yourself Doesn't Make You a Better Parent

What we can do is make the commitment to increase our ratio of good parenting moments, and keep working at it, day after day.

Empathic Limits in Action: Script for Leaving the Playground

Limits give children essential practice in shifting gears between what they want, and something they want more--which is to cooperate and contribute.

Change Your Parenting: Get Me Re-Write!

Here's the key. Don't just decide to act differently next time. Instead, reprogram your subconscious, and give yourself a new script for how you want to respond.

When Your Toddler Hits You: A Script

But Sam isn't laughing because he's enjoying her pain. He's so upset that he can't cry. His laugh is letting off the tension of his upset feelings.

The Secret of Raising a Self-Disciplined Child

Our children learn self-control from the limits we set. But -- and this is critical -- only if we set those limits with empathy.

What's So Bad About Bribing Your Child?

Cooperation is too complicated to be shaped by a simple habit, since it's driven by emotions and how connected your child feels to you at the moment.

10 Routines That Will Strengthen a Parent-Child Relationship

Every interaction all day long is an opportunity to connect. Slow down and share the moment with your child: let him smell the strawberries before you put them in the smoothie.

Should You Negotiate with Your Child?

Sometimes that means we just have to say no and stick to it. Even when our limit is greeted with tears. But remember, there's no reason to be mean about it.

Quick Tips to Shift Your Mood with Gratitude—Permanently!

Throughout your day, stop, breathe deeply and express gratitude for life having brought you to this moment. Notice that this doesn't take any extra time at all out of your day.

Can't Get Through to Your Child?

As children develop, they naturally want to explore the world and learn for themselves. But they need to know that their parents are available, providing a safe base for them.

How (and When) to Apologize to Your Child

Apologizing for your own off-track behavior doesn't mean you don't correct your child when necessary. He'll still know who's boss.

12 Tips to Build a Stronger Sibling Bond

How do siblings build up a reservoir of good feelings to draw on? Mostly, by having a good time together.

Does Peaceful Parenting Mean Letting Kids Do What They Want?

It's not that peaceful parents aren't "in charge." In fact, they're more in charge than most parents--of their own reactions, and therefore of the mood in their house.

12 Ways to Get Past No

It is possible to say "No" in a way that honors your own truth, while still staying in positive contact with your child.

5 Tools to Heal Your Ability to Love Unconditionally

Before we can experience unconditional love from outside, or give it to our children, we need to give it to ourselves.

How to Break the Cycle of Shame With Your Child

The more empathic you are as you set the limit, the more your child will accept the limit, and WANT to shift gears to channel his impulses into more acceptable behavior.

When Your Child Gets Angry: Here's Your Gameplan

Children develop emotional intelligence when we teach them that all their feelings are okay, but they always have a choice about how they act.

What If Your Child Chooses to Do Wrong?

Punishment drives the feelings underground and makes the bad behavior worse. Healing the feelings that are driving the behavior is what prevents a repeat of the misbehavior.

How Children Learn Right from Wrong

When children feel close to their parents, they want to "follow" them. Going against their parents would be going against the most important people in their lives.

10 Ways to Love the One You're With

The hard work for us as parents is accepting who our child is, including the things we wish we could change and cherishing him or her for being that person.

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