Friends or Frenemies? Understanding Bullying in Schools

When kids and parents improperly classify rudeness and mean behavior as bullying, we all run the risk of becoming so sick and tired of hearing the word that this critical safety issue among young people loses its urgency as quickly as it rose to prominence.

Smartphones for Dummies—and Young People

You've hemmed and you've hawed, but finally you've given in and bought your child a smartphone. Now, the challenge begins: how do you ensure that he or she uses it wisely? Here are 10 guidelines to promote respectful, responsible use of your child’s new gadget.

What Girls Can Say and Do to Stand Up to Bullying

When the simplicity of forming a friendship just by climbing the same jungle gym is replaced by the intricacy of scaling middle-school social ladders, how can you teach your daughter the skills she needs to stay strong in the face of friendship drama and bullying?

The Backlash Against Bullying Prevention

It is important to distinguish between rude, mean, and bullying so that teachers, school administrators, police, youth workers, parents, and kids all know what to pay attention to and when to intervene.

Helping Girls Cope with Bullying and Frenemies

Adults often struggle with the question of, "Should I intervene in a child's friendship problems?" We waver between wanting to protect young people from the pain of broken friendships and believing that bullying is an inevitable rite of passage. The bottom line is this; no child should have to find her way through painful conflict all alone.

Ten Kid-Friendly Rules for Texting With Respect and Dignity

There isn’t a simple one-age-fits-all guideline for texting and social media use, but parents can teach kids how to use technology in safe, dignified, respectful ways.

What Parents Can Do When Their Kids' Friendships End Badly

What can you do for your child when he or she is on the receiving end of a sudden deep freeze from former friends?

What Parents and Educators Can Do When Kids Report Bullying

True helping does not necessitate rushing in to solve all of a young person’s troubles single-handedly, but rather implies a process in which an adult guides a young person to solve problems independently and with dignity. What follows are five steps to guide parents and professionals in responding well when a young person reports an incident of bullying.

Cell Phone or E-Reader: Which Comes First?

Middle school is a time of enormous transition for tweens. When parents give their kids new freedoms and privileges in stages, they exercise sound judgment and avoid overwhelming their children with too much, too soon. But there's a flaw in the iPod-before-cell phone logic.

Passive Aggressive Behaviors in School

Do you work with a student who consistently performs at a level that is beneath his ability? Is there a child in your classroom who habitually procrastinates, predictably “forgets,” and inevitably dawdles the whole day long? Are you acquainted with a young person who harbors hostile feelings toward you or a classmate, but never expresses this anger in words?

Do You Know a Child Who Struggles to Make Friends?

For many school-aged kids, the ability to make new friends comes as naturally as breathing. For others, however, connecting with peers is a source of stress each and every day. Kids who struggle socially benefit from adult guidance in developing the skills they need to reach out to their peers and establish friendships.

What is the "Right Age" for Kids to Use Social Media?

“Stop and Think” is at the root of the five rules I offer to parents as they are first teaching their kids about netiquette.

8 Ways to Teach Compassion to Young People

Children may listen to your words, but more importantly, they learn from observing your actions. When you have a chance to practice a random act of compassion, do so! Remember: opportunities to show compassion do not occur by appointment. Show young people that anytime is the right time to engage in acts of service and compassion for others.

Passive Aggressive vs. Assertive Behavior in Relationships

One of the most common reactions people have when I talk about my work in addressing passive aggressive behavior is an impassioned, “Passive aggression is so frustrating! I can’t stand passive aggressive people!” followed up by a quick and more sheepish, “Wait, what exactly is passive aggression again?”

What Does it Take to Stop Bullying in Schools?

I was instantly moved to tears at her son's painful experiences, shocked at the bland responses of too many adults who failed him, grateful for the nurturing care that finally came his way in school, and amazed by the strength of his mother who was a warrior on his behalf.

Stopping Bullying Starts with Building Classroom Culture

The teachers who are most effective in stopping bullying are the ones who work purposefully and systematically to create classroom cultures in which kindness is valued over coolness and popularity among students is based not on the power to dominate social interactions but rather on a young person’s willingness to reach out to a classmate with compassion.

The Importance of Listening Well to Young People

This article provides an abbreviated version of an LSCI “Reality Rub” interview, through which a school counselor is able to help a student re-organize her recollection of a troubling situation in order to broaden her perspective and build a new level of trust with her teacher.

7 Reasons Why People Use Passive Aggressive Behavior

In the short term, passive aggressive behaviors can be more convenient than confrontation and generally require less skill than assertiveness. They allow a person to exact revenge from behind the safety of plausible excuses and to sit on the sofa all weekend long rather than complete a list of undesirable chores. So, what’s not to love?

Ten Guidelines for Stopping Cyberbullying

While many parents consider themselves digital immigrants in their child's native cyber-lands, even a tech-novice can help a young person navigate their way safely through the choppy waters of online aggression. What follows are 10 guidelines that parents can offer to the young people they care about for effectively dealing with cyberbullying.

Reponding to Anger in Children

Bottom line: Some moments kids can use their logical brains and other moments they can’t—especially during periods of stress. Having an awareness of this helps adults make better choices when it comes to responding to the angry outbursts of young people.

The Gift that Keeps on Distracting

How do you ensure that your child uses his new smartphone wisely? Here are 10 guidelines to promote respectful, responsible use of your child’s new gadget.

Passive Aggressive Behavior in Children & Adolescents:

Passive aggressive children and adolescents have a knack for behaving in socially appropriate yet subtly exasperating ways that can make even the most patient, level-headed adult explode in anger.

Passive Aggression in the Classroom: Student vs. Student

Passive aggression is damaging to relationships in the long run and most people who find themselves on the receiving end of this behavior style feel worn down by the pattern of covert hostility.

Passive Aggressive Behavior: Student vs. Teacher

Passive aggressive behavior is a deliberate but masked way of expressing angry feelings. From procrastination at home to sabotage in the workplace and hidden revenge among "friends," passive aggression can be expressed in many different ways, with the common goal of getting back at another person without having to confront or communicate directly.

Passive Aggressive Behavior: A Student's Perspective

One student describes typical compliant defiance that marks interactions between a harsh, critical teacher and a passive aggressive student:

Why Kids Choose Not to Intervene During Bullying Situations

It’s worth taking extra time to acknowledge that stopping bullying is not as easy as it sounds on a tip sheet. For kids, who are often in the very best position to stop the bullying that occurs in their midst, the barriers to intervention are very real and quite formidable.

5 Things Adults Need to Know About Cyberbullying

The dangers posed by cyberbullying are not in the breadth of its perpetrators and victims, but rather in the depth of damage that it causes.

3 Ways to Help Kids Make Friends with Their Anger

Adults often struggle with effectively communicating their angry feelings. For children, this challenge is doubly difficult; kids don’t want to get in trouble for expressing themselves aggressively, but they often lack the skills for communicating assertively.

12 Do’s and Don’ts for Stopping Bullying

What dedicated champions of children--who are pressed for time and overloaded with information--want is sometimes as simple as a list of Do’s and Don’ts.

Giving Kids a Voice to Stop Bullying

For those who are targeted by cruel peers, it can seem as if there is no escape from cruel teasing, taunting, and texting. In this world of constant contact, children need to know how to communicate effectively.

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