When kids and parents improperly classify rudeness and mean behavior as bullying, we all run the risk of becoming so sick and tired of hearing the word that this critical safety issue among young people loses its urgency as quickly as it rose to prominence.
You've hemmed and you've hawed, but finally you've given in and bought your child a smartphone. Now, the challenge begins: how do you ensure that he or she uses it wisely? Here are 10 guidelines to promote respectful, responsible use of your child’s new gadget.
When the simplicity of forming a friendship just by climbing the same jungle gym is replaced by the intricacy of scaling middle-school social ladders, how can you teach your daughter the skills she needs to stay strong in the face of friendship drama and bullying?
It is important to distinguish between rude, mean, and bullying so that teachers, school administrators, police, youth workers, parents, and kids all know what to pay attention to and when to intervene.
Adults often struggle with the question of, "Should I intervene in a child's friendship problems?" We waver between wanting to protect young people from the pain of broken friendships and believing that bullying is an inevitable rite of passage. The bottom line is this; no child should have to find her way through painful conflict all alone.
True helping does not necessitate rushing in to solve all of a young person’s troubles single-handedly, but rather implies a process in which an adult guides a young person to solve problems independently and with dignity. What follows are five steps to guide parents and professionals in responding well when a young person reports an incident of bullying.
Middle school is a time of enormous transition for tweens. When parents give their kids new freedoms and privileges in stages, they exercise sound judgment and avoid overwhelming their children with too much, too soon. But there's a flaw in the iPod-before-cell phone logic.
Do you work with a student who consistently performs at a level that is beneath his ability? Is there a child in your classroom who habitually procrastinates, predictably “forgets,” and inevitably dawdles the whole day long? Are you acquainted with a young person who harbors hostile feelings toward you or a classmate, but never expresses this anger in words?
For many school-aged kids, the ability to make new friends comes as naturally as breathing. For others, however, connecting with peers is a source of stress each and every day. Kids who struggle socially benefit from adult guidance in developing the skills they need to reach out to their peers and establish friendships.
Children may listen to your words, but more importantly, they learn from observing your actions. When you have a chance to practice a random act of compassion, do so! Remember: opportunities to show compassion do not occur by appointment. Show young people that anytime is the right time to engage in acts of service and compassion for others.
One of the most common reactions people have when I talk about my work in addressing passive aggressive behavior is an impassioned, “Passive aggression is so frustrating! I can’t stand passive aggressive people!” followed up by a quick and more sheepish, “Wait, what exactly is passive aggression again?”
I was instantly moved to tears at her son's painful experiences, shocked at the bland responses of too many adults who failed him, grateful for the nurturing care that finally came his way in school, and amazed by the strength of his mother who was a warrior on his behalf.
The teachers who are most effective in stopping bullying are the ones who work purposefully and systematically to create classroom cultures in which kindness is valued over coolness and popularity among students is based not on the power to dominate social interactions but rather on a young person’s willingness to reach out to a classmate with compassion.
Passive Aggressive Diaries focuses on the ways in which readers encounter (and exude!) passive aggressive behavior in daily life. Here, you'll also find strategies for understanding and ending bullying, and well as ideas for managing conflict and crisis among young people. Please visit www.signewhitson.com for more information.